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[quote][red][b]Winning Encounters Through Silence[/b][/red]

By S.P. Kewal

[blue]Life is no longer a journey into beauty and pleasure. In the complex world of today, the struggle for existence has become very acute. The rivalry to win in life are played out most viciously. Challenges track us, and encounters are in ambush, unexpected hostile situations clamour for a duel, wherever we go. We shiver in our boots and cry for a way out. Thus tranquility becomes the first casuality because we don't know how to fight in silence. But do the people understand the language of silence? Noted thinker Elbert Hubbard says that "he who does not understand your silence will probably not understand your words". Caryle writes in his book Heroes and Hero-Worship that silence is more eloquent than words.

Does being fully engaged in one's favourite activity makes a person really happy and successful if he all the time shrills and screams? Does a combative personality hold out a promise for greater achievements in life? Such people think they can get their work done if they keep people around in constant terror through shouting and screaming. To be aggressive in behaviour, arrogant in manners and harsh in language is a manifestation of savagery. You cannot always remain oblivious to such things. Fight back? No, keep your calm. You just can't make a hawk sing like a dove. Moreover, you can't always control the external events, but you can control your attitude towards them. Your strength is your silence. Poet Sadi in the Gulistan says, "A man of virtue, judgement, and prudence speaks not until there is silence."

Finding oneself faced by danger, difficulties, sudden outburst or an explosion of anger,; one shouldn't react quickly. Take a careless posture while encountering an unpleasant situation. It does not mean that one should go through life with apologetic steps. But choose your words carefully, and be ready to give answer to anyone who seeks questions. Of the best society it used to be said, "their speech instructs the mind, and their silence the feelings". Noted French novelist Camu says that "life is meaningless, but we give meanings to it through sensible activities." It is possible only when you make your struggle silence-based. English poet R L Stevenson is of the opinion that it is not always possible to translate all your plans and projects into reality, sometimes a genuine failure is better than a fake success. When a sense of defeat stings you because someone else has stolen march upon you, close your eyes and pray: "Even though I grumble and bemoan my fate from day to day, and wish my circumstances were not quite modest, thankyou lord for the gift of a peaceful life.

Not only mundane affairs, but dreams and fantasies can also turn into a monster-like challenge that shakes your emotional life. In a moment of ecstasy, you weave your dreams around someone. You like to be liked. You want to be wanted. You love to b e loved. But possibilities of deceptions in life cannot be ruled out. Your dreams are shattered, because association has ended in a let down. You look around for something to slit your throat because pain has become unbearable and it has gone into your soul. Sir Walter Raleigh in The Silent Lovers suggests that silence in emotional turmoil is a soothing balm. It is a healing for all ailments. If challenge is simple, observe silence. But if it is grave one, observe frostly silence. The storm will blow over.

It is beautiful to be famous. It is glorious to be rich. It is heavenly to be loved. But before you venture on a perilous journey, you had better wear an armour of silence. It will surely protect you from the onslaught of nasty encounters. It is a sure recipe to win the day. [/blue][/quote]

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