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[quote][i] and i need releef. i h8 this kind of peer presure abt immodesty!! ugh!!! and other things lyk the continuous adverts frm media: 7 kises every girl MUST hv. im nt lyk ANY gurl. i wont HAV a 'BREAK UP KISS' Insha'Allah- i wil comit my lyf 2 one man. INSHA'ALLAH
so heres all the presure layd acros my table. and i hv no idea hw 2 remove it.
help??? 
r there neways out there? [/i]

New ways?

Hmm... I think all are old ways! But I would surely like to share with you your concerns.

What you have told me about the pressure is so terrible. I see that you are a brave person to face it all and maintain your stance. Actually, there is only one way to go through all this and, that is, to stick to what you feel right. You should know that you are the guardian of the moral precepts--moral concepts are what sometimes most detested. What we see in the lives of the Prophets is that they are even put to persecution. In reponse to their beautiful words, indecent and ungrateful people hurl stones on them; in response to their call to Paradise, people call them MAD and LUNATIC---an abnormal person in the society of sane people. What the Prophets do is that they stick to their message and stance. They do not bother what other people think abou them. That is the way you should hold on to your standing. That is great way to beat them! Isn't it?

I also have the following suggestions for you.

1. Get yourself some good friends in your school. Spend your time with them and do not come in the way of these bullies.
2. Try not to argue with these girls unless and until you find that they want to listen in a friendly manner. Why I say this is because you have logical grounds to present to them whereas they have nothing to offer except the vague sense of pleasure to offer to support their viewpoint. As you beat them in arguments, they will resort to fight. You need not indugle in any sort of skirmish. Okay?
3. Try to enjoy your life; sport; playing with your friends; visiting your relatives et cetera. This will eliminate the strain as you will feel good.
4. Try to discuss your concerns with someone close to as and when you feel like, your mother, sister, brother etc. Never block your fears and concerns. Lay them into open.
5.Of course, praying and spending in the way of Allah also helps. Both help us gain strength and courage.

And never forget: Allah has already blessed you and will continue to as you walk on His Way.

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