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[quote]salaam safimera,

My position on this is reflected in the document cited in my previous post on husband and wife.  Now I appreciate that the way the world has become makes the ideal situation difficult to achieve.  However, that is not an excuse to ignore it.  Rather we should aim for it and alter how we do things to achieve it.

I wish to make clear, and this should be in the document I linked to, that having her focus as the home does not mean imprisonment in the home.  That would be like saying that a man having his focus as his work means he never comes home, illogical.  It just implies a focus of our efforts.

This is complementarity, where different spheres of life are put as the responsibility of those best suited to it.

I know that it may not be possible at this point in time for every or even most husbands to financially and psychologically achieve the ideal, nevertheless they should try and their wives should also try to be supportive of this.  The husband and wife dynamic is something that takes some effort.

I also understand that many men are not acting as they should, as no doubt many women are not also.  However, Islam is a guidance to the best path, and we should aim for it as best we can.  So while what you say may be the reality in a a given percentage of the Muslim population, it should not then make you look away from the best path we should aim for.

To be clear, I fully advocate that women have access to any and all useful knowledge.  As an ignorant woman is easy to mislead (by society and also her husband) as well as an inferior mother (as a part of her job is to help educate and train he child).  And in the current climate they may need to learn enough to be able to get a job, however, they should aim for jobs that are conducive to their natures for the purpose of taking care of their financial needs while they exist, rather than to aim to be career women in the modern context.

We are Muslims first and foremost, and our aims in dunya should reflect that.  To achieve a career is not something that should be high on the list of priorities for a Muslim woman.  As it is not a part of the ideal role that Allah has for her.  For the husband, achieving a career, is.

This truly has nothing to do with superiority before Allah, it has to do with the complementary roles and natures Allah has given men and women.

In dunya, it also has to do with the best way to raise a child, the best way to organise the fundamental unit of society.  And the best psychological context to achieve contentment for men and women.

I leave further comments until you decide to add what you wanted to you response.

salaam

Edited by: marwan on Sunday, July 04, 2010 12:29 PM

Edited by: marwan on Sunday, July 04, 2010 12:48 PM[/quote]

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