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[quote]Assalam o Alaikum

Thanks for the detailed reply, but still I am not convinced that marriage is something obligatory. The verse 25:54 do tell us that ALLAH Almighty established the relationship of marriage but does not ask or force anyone for marriage.

Brother Zeenaeem spoke about many advantages of marriage like the spouses are like garments for each other, marriage can save one from sins and spouses are best companions and friends. I agree with all of these facts and I also agree that once a person decides to marry than there are so many responsibilities on him/her which they must follow and then those responsibilities are part of religion as the Almighty ALLAH says in the Holy Qur'an in chapter 2 verse 240
"And those of you who die, while leaving their wives behind, should bequeath one year's provisions for their wives [which they should be provided] without turning them out of their houses. However, if they leave their houses [of their own accord], then there is no blame upon you in what they do regarding themselves, according to the custom."
and in some other places where Qur'an speaks about the rights of wife, but still that doesn't means that marriage is compulsory but these are the responsibilities on someone when he/she marries, not before marriage & there is no explicit order in the Qur'an to marry. The Holy Qur'an urges one to marry because this can save him/her from sins but It only "urges" does not order.

In the verse 30:21 the words used are "that you MAY dwell in tranquility with them and He has put love and mercy between your hearts" Now again this isn't an order but again the Qur'an is urging.

[quote] The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “Of all terms of contract we enter into, there is nothing more worthy of strict observance like those of marriage!”  [/quote]
This is again when we enter into this contract then there nothing like it but again its not compulsory to enter in this contract. 
 [quote] Based on the above considerations, we are not allowed to resort to marriage simply for the purpose of sexual gratification. [/quote]

I have never said that its for the purpose of sexual gratification rather this is one of the most noble relationship between human beings. 
 [quote] The one who gets married is considered “Full Moumin”. Till he gets married, he is not considered so. Since our Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) also married and advocated the institution of marriage, the marriage falls under Sunnah of our Prophet. [/quote]

I really could not understand this point because according to this theory a person to be considered as “Full Moumin” should marry the number of times the Holy Prophet married. ( I think its 9 times, not sure about it ) plus there are many other things which the Holy prophet does but those are noy obligatory for other Muslims just for example the Tahajjud prayer ( Prayer at night ).

About Sunnah, what I believe is something which is part of religion. I don't think that every act of the Prophet is Sunnah. 
 [quote] Al-Qur’aan speaks about marriage in too many places, and hence urges everyone to get married to be away from sins, and to carry forward the mankind. [/quote]

You are also saying that Qur'an "urges" everyone. I do agree that one should marry to stay away from sins and to carry forward the mankind. My point is just that its not obligatory and its isn't part of Shariat ( Rules defined by Islam )

I hope that I haven't said anything which hurts someone's feelings, I was just trying to clear my point. If someone has felt something bad I am SORRY for that.

Peace and Smiles
ALLAH Hafiz

Edited by: atifrafi on Friday, July 30, 2004 6:10 AM

Edited by: atifrafi on Friday, July 30, 2004 1:25 PM[/quote]

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