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[quote]Assalamu’alaikum brothers and sisters, Marriage is a Sunnat and almost all those Sunnah, which are directly related to the ways of life, and the manners of the society are compulsory whether ordered clearly or not because life of the Holy Prophet, Muhammad (peace be upon him) is a best example for the mankind. Being Muslims, these Sunnah need always to be practiced that is mandatory after saying Muhammad-ur-Rasool-Allah provided that there is no clear-cut exemption according to the teachings of Islam. I also want to share my knowledge on the multiple marriages. Our religion, Islam is based not 100% on the nature but very close to the nature. For example the nature compels to eat till no further capacity of the stomach but Islam interferes to stop eating earlier. Similarly there are many other examples. Man's nature is similar to that of other vertebrates. Change of this nature that is not impossible, in every aspect of life includes the man in the category of ASHRAFUL-MAKHLUQAT (best of the creatures) otherwise SUMMUN, BUKMUN, UMYUN (Deaf, Dumb, Blind). So far as normal physiological sexual frequency and gratification is concerned, only one healthy wife is more than enough otherwise it is a perverted sex. It can never be buttressed with Islam. Allah does not like those who cross the limits (Al-Quran- different sites). This is, in general a clear order to interfere the limits of natural acts. I do not favour those men who do more than one marriages without proper indications. They think that these are never contraindicated. According to Holy Quran (Al-Nisa-3) it is crystal clear to understand that two, three or four marriages are only and only indicated to support the orphan girls or their mothers, that is again conditioned to deal with them equally otherwise only one. In case of orphan boys, the marriage with their mothers is allowed similarly. It must be remembered that this permission is never for the sex for which as already mentioned only one healthy wife is enough. People do not read the full text of Holy Quran. They choose the sentences of their own choice to support their false statement. This is same as in Holy Quran (Al-Nisa-43) “ Don’t be near the prayer when you are in the state of narcosis” and if someone adapts only first part of the sentence then one is exempted forever from offering prayers. This is not so. Moreover it is not essential that every order by Allah is liked by Him e.g. divorce is allowed but is hateful of Him. Similarly again, Almighty Allah would dislike multiple marriages (except some special cases) although allowed in certain circumstances. It is an injustice or inhuman behaviour to give rights to someone at the cost of killing those of the others, which is not unusual after the subsequent marriages. Most of the men do the marriages only for sexual enjoyment. Every body can know that if someone can not give rights to the first wife, then how it is possible that one will be an ideal for the second one? His nature will compel him to do a third one. He may continue this play till its drop scene when he stands nowhere. I label these men as psychopaths as their only intention is to enjoy the abnormal sex. This is one of the causes of nuisance in the society and any act that causes nuisance in the society is categorised as a major sin. According to me, without proper indication the relationships after the second marriage (even with Nikah) are illegal because this bilateral consent is absolutely against the Islamic principles and both should be sentenced to the punishment as mentioned in Surat Nur (No.24) of Holy Quran so that no one would have a courage to make the daughters of Hawwa rolling stones. Someone might say “which clay I am made up of” This is same as yours or others. Mind please, the victims are mothers, sisters and daughters. They are not strong members of the society in most parts of the world. Their innocence must not be exploited otherwise it is a cruelty, which is always cursed by Allah Almighty. Medical and social aspects of the multiple marriages · Enlargement of the prostate gland (A gland present only in males just below the urinary bladder) starts when hair start to become grey with the age. Many studies done over the years suggest that the prostatic enlargement occurs more often among married than the single men. So it is obvious that it may be directly related to the sexual activity that is more in those who have multiple wives. Enlargement of the prostate gland leads to retention of the urine, infections and stones formation, renal/kidney failure and cancerous changes etc. · Most of the men having multiple wives take the support of some drugs for sexual enhancement. Almost all these drugs cause high blood pressure and diabetes mellitus leading to heart attack, heart failure, renal/kidney failure, visual disturbances, paralysis, non-healing ulcers resulting in different types of amputations and many other serious complications. · Anxiety and depression, the extreme may lead to suicide. · If the man is a carrier of some diseases, all the wives are equally vulnerable. · The commonest social problem is unusual disobedience by the children, most probably due to distribution of the heritage between the multiple partners. · The causes of multiple marriages other than said in Quran and abnormal sexual enjoyment are, getting property of the next wife, to show oneself a husband of multiple wives and sometimes to give mental torture to the first wife in reaction to her teasing attitude to him. Therefore the women must be very much careful and the first wife must do her best to create a powerful mutual understanding throughout their lives to avoid her husband to deviate. This can be done by penetrating deeply into the psychology of the husband and adapting herself according to him, if feasible. I think this is the only or one of the powerful preventive measures. If the multiple marriages are according to the teachings of Islam, I believe that one will be under the umbrella of blessings of Almighty Allah and will enjoy the peace physically, mentally, socially, economically as well as spiritually. May Allah help us to do what He wants? Aamen! Allah Hafiz! Dr. Akhlaq[/quote]
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