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[quote]In my opinion the law should be based on the biological facts, i.e., at what age can a girl undertake successful pregnancy and also the real fact that at what age can a boy be financially independent or be intellectually mature.

To my mind in the modern world, we are looking at an extremely small subset of individuals.

But anyways, the point is what are we encouraging here? The fear of fornication should not be a criterion for marriage. There is something called patience, which people must be taught.

After all, if the physically unattractive, deformed, financially unstable, the sick et al. can stay chaste for the rest of their lives, then two or three years at most for precocious teens should not be much or a problem. Now should it?

Islamic values instill strength in a person, as opposed to making the individual paranoid as to get married quickly for one would fornicate.

Contrary to what people think, it is quite hard to fornicate, you know why?

1) need to know the person
2) need to go on a date
3) need to make the eye contact.
4) need to be assertive.

you know Islamic teachings are about not even drawing near such a state.

So please give me a break, when you impress upon me the need for marriage out of fear of fornication.

Marriage is to be thought over by a rational, mature mind. It is not a child's play. Men mature late in age, why do you think Arabs are polygamous?

If you have read 'Road to Mecca', you would know that the Bedouin Arabs would advise Muhammad Asad to marry a young girl or marry again. Why? Because that is their custom, i.e., marrying young, and when they get tired they marry again even at expense of divorce.

But are these Bedouin values we want to cherish. I think not!

Edited by: junaidj on Monday, February 07, 2005 10:43 AM[/quote]

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