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[quote]In the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful.

QUOTE: keep a wider eye on one's own duties rather than rights. This shall hopefully lead to least expectations, forgiveness, forbearance and tolerance; thereby long term and happier relationship insh'Allah.

I agree wholly with hkhan who has closed not the river but the ocean into the bowl and if no exaggeration and no hesitation it may be called as the “bowl of love”. Although somewhat bitter but as quoted above “long term and happier relationship insh'Allah” would do supersede the bitterness.

If we learn seriously how to leave the right not to fight for, then no doubt we are successful to create the peace. So far as my knowledge is concerned we are not commanded by the Shariah absolutely to leave no stone unturned to get our rights but leave or forgive too, which is perhaps more rewarding. I mean to say, if the spouses have all the rights to forgive each other’s mistakes, which are not unusual then there must be utilisation of these rights given by God to let the tension, which has the very serious short term and long term effects, succumb on the both sides.

If do not mind, NEVER do the speeches at home as the women do outside the home or at the websites otherwise it would be same as if for example some new drug is experimented by the pharmaceuticals company on their home mates instead of the experimental animals. But as I pointed out in one of my posts earlier in this forum about the “likes and dislikes” one may proceed accordingly.

NOTE: It must be remembered that “keeping a wider eye on one's own duties rather than rights hopefully leading to least expectations, forgiveness, forbearance and tolerance” is never one sided because two hands are required to clap but on contrary, one must do ones own duties for which one is answerable to God.

Wassalam with the saying of God:

And treat them (wives) kindly; then if you hate them it may be that you dislike a thing while Allah has placed abundant good in it (4: 19).[/quote]

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