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[quote][b]Salaam,[/b]
 [maroon]Posted by [b]SananK[/b] 
 "I am a male 23 years of age and have been living in usa all my life. So I grew up around western society and interactions between the opposite sex. The thing I don't get is. There are lines from the Quran / Hadith that forbid this? Or is it if someone believes in those lines they are known as a salafi as I have been told. I did have interaction as a kid growing up but then came time i started to block off contact with the opposite gender that was not a mehram to 
me completely. As it is written, lower your gaze and you can't even talk to your own cousin as I have read. But today's society is so based 
on interacting with the opposite it has gotten me 
confused."
Islam prescribes a socio moral standard in which men and women are responsibile for their actions and intentions. Islam also promotes 
the healthy enviroment through which a strong family would develope for a better social atmosphere. This is such importance in our religion that Islamic Shariah has prescribed certain limits that one should have a sense of modesty and sincerity in any kind of relationship and to minimize the potential moral and spiritual dangers involved in one to one relationship.
 Now there are two kinds of relationship that you 
may question about. One is platonic type and the one you are askin' here vut before I go on, lets have a look at the following verse of the Qur'an.
[center][b]Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity 
for them: And Allah is well acquainted with all that they do. And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard 
their modesty. (Al-Noor 24: 30 - 31)[/b][/center]
Now it should be clear that the above verse is referring the platonic relationship between men and women that should be avoided. This is the 
general rule when interacting with Na-Mahram as you would say. There is no such thing in the Qur'an that you can not even talk to your 
co-workers and vasity peers etc. Becuase they are the acquaintances which is sure, not that type of relatinoship which is prohibbited. Therefore, God has commanded us to keep the modesty and restraining the [b]bad eyes[/b]by means of lust. 
 [maroon]Posted by [b]SananK[/b] 
 "When something is forbidden in the religion, such as gender interaction? Why is it even ok "NOWADAYS", 
when it really wasn't in the past. Why are we categorized nowadays in categories when categories like this didn't exist in the "PAST". Why are some people trying to add additions and rulings to Islam and allowing certain things when it is "FORBIDDEN" in Islam. Why is 
something "FORBIDDEN" stretched to be allowable today in Islam."
Now it should be clear that why exactly this interaction is forbidden. Yes only platonic relationship is forbidden and it's not about the matter of past and present but the interpretation.
Prophet (pbuh) is reported to have directed Muslim men and women to avoid staying alone with their unrelated counterparts. That means that appropriate interaction is always be there. Hazrat Ayesha(ra) used to teach Sahaba etc.

 [maroon]Posted by [b]SananK[/b] 
 "I myself have talked to the opposite but I cut them off in fear I am doing something wrong?"
It's upto you. if you think you can't help interacting your pals at school then you should 
take care of those above directives of the Shariah.

I hope it helps.

[b]Regards,[/b]

[b]Roswell™[/b][/quote]

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