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[quote]As salam o aleikum,

I think one important factor that we tend to forget is that the institution of marriage is a 'contract' between a man and woman. As such, this is a two-way relationship where both men and women share the hardships of life as well as enjoy the good moments together. It is a relationship of compassion and love.

At the same time, there is a leadership role assigned in the family so as to establish a head of the family. That leadership role is assumed to resolve the conflicts that may arise in the family and as such it has been bestowed upon the husband. This does not mean that ultimate power rests within that person, but that he is chosen to take care of the family, as well as guide it through when needed.

Having a choice for a woman, for instance given that she can or cannot work, does not necessarily mean that in all families she HAS to work. Many a times she may choose not to work, and in many cases she may be requested by her husband not to do so. This does not mean that she did not have a choice by Islam, just that the husband and the wife together came to a compromise whereby they decided that the woman should look after the children whereas the man goes out to earn.

I agree with the opinion that unfortunately the picture is very tainted. Consider two partners living together. One has to go out earn, provide food, provide a home to live in, provide clothes and other necessities of life, while the other mate manages them as well as their offsprings. You can choose either mate to be male or female, to most of us, the female will still be oppressed. Whether she HAS been forced to work to provide the living and male asked to stay at the home, or otherwise.

It seems that in today's world, if a woman HAS to do something, her rights are oppressed. I do not find such a case for men. Please keep in mind that their relationship is of a good nature as portrayed by an Islamic marriage, and not typical marriages where partners are not necessarily as compassionate and understanding.

Regards

Edited by - miqbal on November 02 2003  05:56:19[/quote]

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