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[quote]i found this nice article so thought of sharing with everyone :)
Who Do You Sit With ?
            by :A.S. Zod.

Brothers and Sisters! Fear Allah in secret and in public, do not 
            transgress His limits and do not dare anything disobedient to Allah.

Allah says in the Qur'an:

"Verily, he who fears Allah with obedience to Him, (by abstaining 
            from sins and evil deeds and by performing righteous good deeds), 
            and is patient, then surely Allah makes not the reward of the 
            good-doers be lost."

Yusuf 12:90

And also:

"O you who believe! Fear Allah as He should be feared, and die only 
            as Muslims in a state of Islam with complete submission to Allah."

Al Imran 3:102

And:

"O you who believe! Keep your duty to Allah, fear Him and speak 
            always the Truth. He will direct you to do righteous good deeds and 
            will forgive your sins. And whosoever obeys Allah and His Messenger, 
            Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam, he has indeed achieved a great 
            achievement - i.e. he will be saved from Hell-fire and made to enter 
            Paradise."

Al Ahzaab 33:70-71

Allah Almighty created man, and made socialising a part of his 
            nature. Man therefore, either associates with the righteous, or with 
            the wicked, and if he does not associate with people, then he has a 
            relationship with the jinns, who will call him to do evil and lead 
            him astray. Or, he will have a relationship with numerous material 
            things in the form of the television, video tapes, music, magazines 
            etc. by which he will be entrance, and this usually results in a 
            negative attitude in his behaviour.

People tend to sit with those who have the same nature as them. The 
            good person is inclined to mix with the good, while the bad person 
            is inclined to mix with the bad.

The Qur'an urges us to choose the good friend. In Surah At Tawbah it 
            states:

"O you who believe! Be afraid of Allah, and be with those who are 
            true in words and deeds."

At Tawbah 9:119

In Surah Al Kahf there are a few lessons to be considered in the 
            following Verse where Allah says: (18:28)

1. "And keep yourself patiently... - therefore socialising with 
            people showing moral rectitude is a type of worship that requires 
            patience."

2. "..With those who call on their Rabb, morning and afternoon... - 
            these are the characteristics with which we should choose our 
            friends."

3. "..Seeking His face... - this is with reference to sincerity."

4. "..And let not your eyes overlook them... - Here Allah is telling 
            the Prophet, Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam, not to overlook the 
            righteous people, because if he did, then he will certainly be with 
            the bad."

That is why Allah Almighty says to the Prophet, Sallallaahu Alayhi 
            Wasallam, not to: "..desire the pomp and glitter of the life of the 
            world. And obey not him whose heart We have made heedless of Our 
            Remembrance, one who follows his own lusts and whose affair have 
            been lost."

If these orders by Allah Almighty are directed to the best of His 
            creatures, the Prophet, Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam, because He 
            cares about his heart, then what can be said about us being affected 
            by those who follow their own lusts.

The Prophet, Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam said, "Do not take someone 
            as a friend, unless he is a believer, and nobody should eat your 
            food unless he is pious."

From this we can gather why our pious predecessors used to be 
            specific in choosing their friends. They even sometimes made 
            supplications to Allah to let someone pious support him in acts of 
            worship. The Prophet, Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam said, "A man 
            becomes like the one with whom he associates with, so be aware of 
            who you mix with."

The friend of a believer should possess certain qualities such as 
            intelligence, good moral standards and must also not be an innovator 
            in religion. He must not be a Faasiq (disobedient Muslim) - because 
            the faasiq is someone who acts immorally and sinfully and does not 
            fear Allah. Hence he can not be trusted.

The benefits that can be acquired from a righteous friend:

• Reward and merit - In a Hadeeth by Abu Hurayrah (RA), the Prophet, 
            Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam said, "Allah has some angels who look 
            for those who celebrate the Praises of Allah on the roads and paths. 
            When they find some people celebrating the Praises of Allah, they 
            call one another saying, 'Come to the object of your pursuit'. He 
            added, "Then the angels encircle them with their wings up to the sky 
            of the world. " He added, "After those people have celebrated the 
            Praises of Allah, and the angels have gone back, their Rabb asks the 
            angels - though He knows better than they - 'What do My slaves say?' 
            The angels reply, 'They say: SubhaanAllah, Allahu Akbar, and 
            Alhamdulillah.' Allah then says, 'Did they see Me?' The angels 
            reply, 'No! By Allah, they didn't see You.' Allah says, 'How would 
            it be if they saw Me?' The angels reply, 'If they saw You, they 
            would worship You more devoutly, celebrate Your Glory more deeply, 
            and declare more often Your freedom from a resemblance to anything 
            else.' Allah says to the angels, 'What do they ask Me for?' The 
            angels reply, 'They ask You for Paradise'. Allah says to the angels, 
            'Did they see it?' The angels say, 'No! By Allah, O Rabb! They did 
            not see it.' Allah says: 'How would it be if they saw it?' The 
            angels say, 'If they saw it, they would covet it much more, seek it 
            with greater zeal and would have greater desire for it.' Allah says, 
            'From what do they seek refuge?' The angels reply, 'They seek refuge 
            from the Hell-Fire.' Allah says, 'Did they see it?' The angels say, 
            'No, By Allah, O Rabb! They did not see it'. Allah says, 'How would 
            it be if they saw it?' The angels say, 'If they saw it they would 
            flee very far from it and would have extreme fear of it.' Then Allah 
            says, 'I make you witnesses that I have forgiven them'". Allah's 
            Messenger, Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam added: "One of the angels 
            will say, 'There was so-and-so among them; he was not one of them, 
            but he had just come for some need'. Allah will say, 'These are the 
            people whose companions will not be reduced to misery.'"
            • Knowledge and information. Imam Maalik reports that Luqmaan Al 
            Hakeem advised his son by saying: "O my son sit with the scholars 
            and approach them eagerly, since Allah enlightens the heart with the 
            light of wisdom in the same way Allah enriches the earth by 
            supplying it with rain."

• Reason and consultation. Every person needs a friend who can 
            advise him in his interests and welfare and most importantly his 
            Deen, and to be away from the hypocrites who really do not mean what 
            they say or have some other motive for their friendship other than 
            to please Allah (swt).

• Virtuous morals and generosity. The Hadeeth mentioned earlier 
            regarding whom you should mix with describes this issue, and there 
            is a famous saying that says, "Tell me who your friends are and I 
            will tell you who you are."

• Humbleness and submissiveness. The Prophet, Sallallaahu Alayhi 
            Wasallam used to sit with the poor and those deserving pity.

• If, however, you did not benefit from the morals and knowledge of 
            a righteous friend morally, you would have at least benefited from 
            his good reputation.

• The company of those righteous increases your goodness. Abu Moosa 
            Al Ash'aree (RA) narrated that the Prophet, Sallallaahu Alayhi 
            Wasallam said, "The example of a good companion who sits with you in 
            comparison with a bad one, is like that of the musk seller and the 
            blacksmith's bellows or furnace, from the first you would either buy 
            musk or enjoy its good smell while the bellows would either burn 
            your clothes or your house, or you get a bad nasty smell thereof."

If you do not find knowledge and morals in a person, then you should 
            revert to the Qur'an, to other books of knowledge, to tapes from 
            well-known scholars for companionship. In Surah Al Israa' it says:

"And We sent down from the Qur'an that which is a healing and a 
            mercy to those who believe, and it increases the Dhaalimoon - the 
            wrong-doers, nothing but loss. Some of the pious predecessors use to 
            accompany the dead Companions by reading their biographies, since 
            this increased their faith and an example to follow."

Al Israa 17:82

Know that if friendship was founded on sincerity and for the sake of 
            Allah, then Allah will accept it and honor it. If it was based on 
            worldly matters, then Allah will reject it. Az Zukhruf it says:

"Friends on that Day will be foes one to another except the Al 
            Muttaqoon - the pious and righteous who fear Allah much".

Az Zukhruf 43:67

In Surah At Tawbah Allah says:

"O you who believe! Be afraid of Allah and be with those who are 
            true."

At Tawbah 9:119

In Surah Al An'aam Allah says:

"And leave alone those who take their religion as play and 
            amusement, and are deceived by the life of this world".

Al An'aam 6:70

The Prophet, Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam, and many of our pious 
            predecessors warned us about the bad friends and described them as 
            people of lust, who believe in magic, the hypocrites who back-bite, 
            and those who engage in false conversation about the Qur'an.. In 
            Surah. Al An'aam Allah says:

"And when you see those who engage in a false conversation about Our 
            Verses of the Qur'an by mocking at them, stay away from them till 
            they turn to another topic. And if Satan causes you to forget, then 
            sit not you after the remembrance in the company of those people who 
            are the Dhaalimoon - the wrong-doers".

Al An'aam 6:68

In Surah An Nisaa it states:

"And it has already been revealed to you in the Book that when you 
            hear the verses of Allah being denied and mocked at, then sit not 
            with them, until they engage in a talk other than that; but if you 
            stayed then certainly in that case you would be like them."

An Nisaa 4:140

The bad person whom you took for a companion will make you say on 
            the Day of Judgement as is stated in Surah Az Zukhruf it 
            states:(43:38-39)

"Would that between me and you were the distance of the two Easts or 
            the East and West - a worst type of companion! It will profit you 
            not this Day as you did wrong and that you will be sharers in the 
            punishment."

Allah mentions two examples of friendship in the Qur'an:

• A person who took a disbeliever as an example to resemble and died 
            without repentance. Allah says about him in Surah Al Furqaan Allah 
            says:(25:27-29)
            "And remember the Day when the Dhaalimoon - the wrong-doer, will 
            bite at his hands: he will say, Oh! Would that I had taken a path 
            with the Messenger Muhammad, Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam! Ah! Woe to 
            me! Would that I had never taken so-and-so as a friend!"

• A person also took a disbeliever as an example, then Allah 
            bestowed His mercy upon him and he repented. In Surah As Saaffaat it 
            states:(37:51-57)

"A speaker of them will say, Verily I had a companion in the 
            world.(51)

Who used to say, Are you among those who believe in Resurrection 
            after Death.(52)

That when we die and become dust and bones, shall we indeed be 
            raised up to receive reward or punishment according to our 
deeds?(53)

The man said, Will you look down?(54)

So he looked down and saw him in the midst of the fire.(55)

He said, By Allah! You have nearly ruined me.(56)

Had it not been for the Grace of my Rabb. I would certainly been 
            among those brought forth to Hell.(57)"

We ask Allah Almighty for forgiveness in anything we may have done 
            that transgressed our duty. To make our hearts firm on His Religion 
            and make our lives end with the True faith. To help and guide us and 
            to give us the ability to learn and understand His True Religion. To 
            apply it throughout our daily lives, then preach it to others, and 
            grant us His Mercy in this world as well as in the Hereafter.

May Allah send His Salaat and Salaams upon our Prophet Muhammad, 
            Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasallam, upon his family, upon his noble 
            Companions and all the rightly guided people from the day of 
            Creation to the Last Day .

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