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[quote][purple]some good tips, do'nt agree with al though...[/purple]

[green]How to Make your Wife Happy [/green]

[blue]To help strengthening the Muslim families and spread the teachings of Islam
in building families, the Muslim Students' Association at the University of
Alberta prepared a extremely summarized translation for two books.

1- How to make your wife happy
2- How to make your husband happy[/blue]

How to make your wife happy !! (Part 1)
---------------------------------------------------------------

The following is part ONE of a summary of the book "How to make your wife
happy" by Sheikh Mohammed Abdelhaleem Hamed.

1. Beautiful Reception

After returning from work, school, travel, or whatever has separated
you:
    * begin with a good greeting.
    * Start with Assalamau 'Aliaykum and a smile. Salam is a sunnah and a
du'aa for her as well.
    * Shake her hand and leave bad news for later!

2. Sweet Speech and Enchanting Invitations

* Choose words that are positive and avoid negative ones.
    * Give her your attention when you speak of she speaks.
    * Speak with clarity and repeat words if necessary until she
understands.
    * Call her with the nice names that she likes, e.g. my sweet-heart,
honey, saaliha, etc.

3. Friendliness and Recreation

* Spend time talking together.
    * Spread to her goods news.
    * Remember your good memories together.

4. Games and Distractions

* Joking around & having a sense of humor.
    * Playing and competing with each other in sports or whatever.
    * Taking her to watch permissible (halal) types of entertainment.
    * Avoiding prohibited (haram) things in your choices of entertainment.

5. Assistance in the Household

* Doing what you as an individual can/like to do that helps out,
      especially if she is sick or tired.
    * The most important thing is making it obvious that he appreciates her
hard work.

6. Consultation (Shurah)

* Specifically in family matters.
    * Giving her the feeling that her opinion is important to you.
    * Studying her opinion carefully.
    * Be willing to change an opinion for hers if it is better.
    * Thanking her for helping him with her opinions.

7. Visiting Others

* Choosing well raised people to build relations with.  There is a great
reward in visiting relatives and pious people.  (Not in wasting time while
visiting!)
    * Pay attention to ensure Islamic manners during visits.
    * Not forcing her to visit whom she does not feel comfortable with.

8. Conduct During Travel

* Offer a warm farewell and good advice.
    * Ask her to pray for him.
    * Ask pious relatives and friends to take care of the family in your
absence.
    * Give her enough money for what she might need.
    * Try to stay in touch with her whether by phone, e-mail, letters, etc..
    * Return as soon as possible.
    * Bring her a gift!
    * Avoid returning at an unexpected time or at night.
    * Take her with you if possible.

9. Financial Support

* The husband needs to be generous within his financial capabilities. He
should not be a miser with his money (nor wasteful).
    * He gets rewards for all what he spends on her sustenance even for a
small piece of bread that he feeds her by his hand (hadeith).
    * He is strongly encouraged to give to her before she asks him.

10. Smelling Good and Physical Beautification

* Following the Sunnah in removing hair from the groin and underarms.
    * Always being clean and neat.
    * Put on perfume for her.

.

11. Guarding Privacy

* Avoid disclosing private information such as bedroom secrets, her
personal problems and other private matters.

[blue]Muslim Students' Association
University of Alberta
Edmonton, Canada
February, 1999[/blue]

Reference: http://www.jannah. <http://www.jannah.org/sisters/wifehappy.html>
org/sisters/wifehappy.html[/quote]

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