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[quote]Asa wb

I'm not a parent but i do work with children, so i hope this helps.

Setting a colourful structured timetable of rules that the children must follow daily. For e.g. The timetable can show their homework time, playtime and choir time.

The purpose of this is to help children (especially if there are 2 or more in one household) to become more organised, responsible and to gain respect for each other as well as their mother. (We know how important it is to respect the mother in Islam).

Children can be further motivated by setting up a reward system where they can get a treat during the weekend for obeying the rules. They can also get a punishment if they disobey a rule, like miss a playtime or not get a treat.

Without no structure some families will find that their children will try and pull away,

"oh let me watch TV first, then i'll wash the dishes" (but they never do it)

"Mum, I hoovered yesterday why can't one of the others do it now!" (if mum doesnt push the others to do it, it can cause the responsible child to follow his lazy siblings and not do choirs as well)

Errr i could go on.

I would like to add (before even bringing the timetable up) to discuss with the children first why its important to do choirs and homework. Get them to link their reasons with the teachings of Islam:

-Allah Swt likes those who are active responsible and helpful 
-Allah Swt likes people who help others
-Allah Swt says its good to obey the mum
- Allah Swt will reward me in paradise

(It would be much better if the parent shows the proper evidence from the Qur'an and hadith so the children can see it for themselves).

Next try and get the children to come up with a solution in how they can share out the choirs and when they can do homework and have their playtime. Hopefully with some prompting they will come up of the idea of a timetable.

I hope this is useful![/quote]

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