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[quote](rcvd with thnx from br ijaz latif)

[b][purple]Have you cleaned the house?
Is dinner ready?
Have you fed the kids?
Did you wash my clothes?[/purple]

[green]These are some of the questions that women hear, day in and day out, from
husbands who assert that wives are nothing more than servants and baby
machines. But a wife is neither.

Nevertheless, amidst busy schedules on the parts of both women and men, some
husbands forget the real reasons behind marriage and likewise the rights of
their wives. Subsequently, they deprive themselves, their mates and their
children of the happiness and tranquility that is the bedrock of a
successful family. This unbalanced vision towards a couple's ideal
relationship is bad enough to plunge the family into a situation laden with
troubles and worries.

Even among religious families, you will find some husbands who still do not
have a proper understanding of rights of their wives, nor a clear vision of
the intended relationship between a married couple.

It is both painful and distressing to see a Muslim husband practicing
Allah's orders on the one hand, but forgetting to follow His guidance
regarding how to treat his wife. Outside the home he is kind, patient and
smiling. But, as soon as he returns home, the smiling face [:)] becomes angry [:(!] and
sad and the kindness and gentleness turn into nervousness and adversity . He
starts shouting and screaming his orders at his wife.

He forgets that although he faces many challenges and pressures outside the
house, his wife can also be overwhelmed with the housework and her
responsibilities to the children.

He forgets that she also needs rest after a long day of working [B)]. Although
his duty is to work outside the house and to provide for his family, a
wife's role inside the house is not any less important. On the contrary, her
role is often more important as she is the one charged with raising the
children and guarding the family.

We often see this scenario: A wife feels tired and asks her husband to help
her with the cleaning, washing or cooking. He refuses [V], as though it is
shameful for a man to help his wife. Doesn't he know that Prophet Mohammad
(SAW), the most beloved person to Allah (SWT), helped his wives with the
housework? Doesn't he know that Omar Ibn al-Khattab provided recipes to a
group of women in order to teach them how to cook? Could Omar teach others
if he himself did not know how to cook?

No husband, regardless of how much work he has, can ever be busier than our
Prophet (SAW) whose duty it was to spread Islam. Likewise, no one is busier
than Omar who had to bear the responsibility of a Khalifah.

It shocks [:0] me to hear that some wives have never heard a loving or
appreciative word from their husbands. When asked about the person he loved
the most, the Prophet (SAW) did not hesitate to name his wife, A'ishah.
Thus, he declared very clearly, that a husband should not be ashamed [8)] of
loving his wife[:I] or even of declaring that love in front of other people.

It is also painful to hear that some husbands do not speak to their wives [|)] or
spend time with their families [:(] , under the pretenses of a busy schedule and
da'wa work.[/green][/b][/quote]

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