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[quote][quote] if so, what about poor man with children. [/quote] haha!! why not , in my opinion if he could get the chance to marry a rich woman for support, let it be..... but let us come to the fact: 1) it is man dominated society 2) reponsibility has been put on male to earn money by God, so that poor man should try harder and harder to earn money. [quote] Urge for food is different. One can eat food beyond one's desire but can't do sex beyond his desire. And, what are the hazards of over sex like those of over eating [/quote] I do not agree that if somebody has no desire for food and you can force him to eat???... the result is usually vomiting or maximum 2 to 3 pieces inside.... same in sex : you may go upto foreplay and then no more........ hundreds of children presenting to the doctors daily by their parents complaining [b]"not eating"...[/b]they force them , punish them or beat them but no use.....because the children have no desire (that could be natural for some kids or due to any disease). Secondly we are not in this world to fulfil our natural desires upto its finishing level (100% satisfaction). I hope you are reading Quran with translation regularly....what is the teaching of Islam according to Quran: on many many occasion God said "this world is for little benefit...little enjoyment...little satisfaction.... the real satisfaction, the real benefit and the real enjoyment in heaven ....life after death"....then Quran further says "to gain this you have to work hard, be responsible and sacrfice your things which you love for the cause of God...." so what does it mean??? 2 or 3 or 4 marriages mentioned in sura NISA only, you do your homework and ask any scholar of your choice, all will reply that "this verse at that time only to help those widow women with children whose husband got shaheed" ....not to fulfill the increased desire of sex.....do your homework in this regard... Harmful effects of over-sex are mostly mental and psychological. There are many centres in western world which treat "sex addiction " as established disease. You can find detail by surfing online google...... [quote] Well, if anyone is fed up, certainly, it's a natural phenomenon. So Is Islam (said to be on religion of nature) against such natural phenomenon. If Islam is really religion of nature, so "has it any solution of such problem (being fed up)?" [/quote] being fed up is a natural phenomenon but temporary, u could fed up with your work for a while, with your children , with your surrounding and vice versa wife also could be fed up with you as well...but u do not take a drastic step in reaction.... [u]solution:[/u] just give a little break and do discussion or raise the issue of conflicts by simple talking could resolve the situation... more importantly ask for God's help for saving you married life, pray and read Quran. saba2==> [quote] The question is why does a woman stay with her husband? Lack of choices? or doesn't care as long as her needs are met? [/quote] 100% reason is lack of choices....... suppose ideally, if a woman has choice of two potential men to marry of same level in all aspects (physical appearance, wealth, social status and religion) but one is already married also...where she would go???? if you say even then a woman can go for the married one....then I rest my case...lols[/quote]
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