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[quote]>>Sorry if it offended you.

Apologies accepted. Please try to compose messages devoid of conjectures and accusations.

Having said that let me begin:

>>Why would you like to make a law requiring permission of 1st wife when no such law is given in shariah?

Quite simply it is left for us to decide.

>>You realize that a new law will limit the options we have.

That is the point, i.e., to discourage practices which are rampantly being misused in the Muslim world.

>>I do not believe it is proper to tell others to do something or not to do somehting just because one approves or disapproves of it.

I am not restraining people from marrying multiply. All I am saying is that they have the basic decency to ask their wife first. If she is OK with it, well and good, just as the example of Saudi women that you had given earlier, eager to have a sister.

However, many women would not like it. Why force it upon them? Remember this law of permissibility is only to safeguard existing marriages and to disallow creation of a new one at the expense of the previous one.

A person who loves his wife, will never do anything that goes against her wishes. On the contrary, most cases of multiple marriages come from males who are just fed up of their lives, i.e., there is no nobility in their motives. Understand that people who love their wives will not displease them by marrying matrons and widows. Can you see how rampant the misuse of this so called allowance is?

>>Like the example of people who will say that shark are not to be eaten,

In my opinion, Sharks are prohibited. But this is another debate.

http://www.understanding-islam.org/related/text.asp?type=question&qid=1388
As for the primarily carnivorous and predatory animals, these fall in the category of natural prohibitions, rather than the prohibitions of the Shari`ah.

>>even when all creatures of the sea are clearly halal as stated in holy Quran.

Reference?

>>Why do we need to impose restrictions on ourselves by inventing new rules and regulations when Allah has made it easy for us?

To safeguard the sacred institution of marriage. Please try to understand that issues of wife beating, multiple marriages, are discouraged. They are mere suggestions. The underlying spirit is to keep the bonds of marriage strong and if anything disturbs that, we can try to impose laws within the Shariah to curb that.

No one is saying multiple marriages are to be banned, all I am saying is to introduce a condition which conforms with basic human decency and common sense. This is not a matter of preference or whims.

>>and in essence those people were making their own lives more and more difficult.

This comes out of context. People such as those were trying to avoid following the law, as for instance the netting before the Sabbath to get fish. You will get a better picture of why they asked these questions, once you see 'Ten Commandments'.

>>My point is we do not need new rules in this matter, otherwise we will create difficulties for ourselves.

On the contrary, the simple condition of permission is to facilitate marital bliss, not to create hardships. And what hardships would those be? To be unable to have legalized sex with more than one woman? To have to focus on one's wife and children with all one's heart as opposed to hankying pankying elsewhere and get added responsibilities and making life even more complex?

>>It physically affects your body. On the other hand, polygamy causes mental stress, but it does not cause direct physical harm nor is it addictive like smoking in any way.

Both cause harm and that is enough. Mental anguish can be worse. But the reason I employed the analogy was to show that in both cases Shariah is silent, and if we have no problems accepting laws on one, why must we rattle on the other.

For once, try to think beyond the box. Try to see the underlying principles and objectives of the Shariah.

PS: Eating lobsters, crabs is a personal issue. Public Smoking and Multiple marriage is not.

Edited by: junaidj on Tuesday, December 28, 2004 8:05 AM[/quote]

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