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[quote]Assalam alaikum

You said:

"I will only add, that Koran does not provide laws"

You cannot be more wrong. Quran gives some very explicit laws. Infact Quran itself states that it gives laws:

98.2,3: A messenger from Allah, reading purified pages. Wherein are laws (or decrees) right and straight.

Quran gives clear cut laws about inheritance, bearing testimony, fornication, adultery, slander, theft. No doubt Quran also leads us to make laws and elaborate on rules, but Quran does explicitly give laws. Please retract your statement.

Shariah has granted man to marry a woman without requiring anyone's permission (except for that of the free woman he is marrying ofcourse). You think you are doing good by making the permission mandatory, but you fail to see what divine wisdom there could be in leaving this the way it is.

Your argument is it will cause emotional or physical harm to the first wife. Well, she is free to seek khula and divorce, be free and live happy without him. She wont have any emotional or physical harm any more. If he cannot be loyal to her alone, then she does not deserve him anyway. By requiring her permission, which she will in most cases not grant, you will make their marriage miserable. The husband will not be happy, and the marriage will suffer. When one is not happy, the marriage is not happy.

The harm such a ruling will cause is a miserable marriage.

I have a friend, and his wife wanted to get into debt and riba to buy something they could not afford. They had argument and she filed for divorce and took custody of the child. Several years later, she won't grant him divorce, she refuses to sign the papers, and she won't move back with him. She is waiting for her greencard based on her husband's US citizenship. She has denied him the family life he wanted, the children he wanted, and that which is a right of every married man.

Your ruling would make it almost impossible for him to get married to another woman and raise a family. He went to India, got married (where second marriage is allowed), and brought new wife here. Now he is living happily with a new child and wife. Meanwhile the first wife is still not granting him divorce because she hasn't received her greencard.

This is the case with many men in America and UK. Their wives file for divorce, and the proceedings take many years. This society does not allow them to get married while they are already married. This is a gross injustice to men whose first marriage has no meaning for them and they are unable to get a divorce.

May Allah guide us all to the truth.[/quote]

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