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[quote]Assalam alaikum,

First of all to say that the life of the prophet encourages monogamy is a big contradiction. This was certainly not his example. Good luck convincing non-Muslims with that. All though there is no denying that the Quran encourages monogamy, the Sunnah certainly does not give that example.

Secondly, to require man to get permission, that is violation of his right as granted silently by Shariah. Man is the head of the house, as Quran states the general observation that men have a degree over women (2.228). Man is advised not to let his women, if they are foolish, to spend away their money which is a means of sustenance for them (4.5). Generally one who earns money has more decision making power in the house, and generally that goes to the man of the house. My point is man has leverage over woman in certain matters (and vice versa), and it should stay that way.

I agree with you that this freedom from permission is easily exploited by man to satisfy his selfish needs and passions at the expense of the first wife. So perhaps instead of making a general rule requiring permission in all cases, I believe it would be better for a judge to decide at an individual level, and let the man prove to the judge that his intentions were noble. If the wife does not like what her husband has done, she should take him to a court or get divorced.

I really doubt that the rule you propose will benefit the woman in our societies. It will only encourage men to cheat on their wives. And adultery, my friend, is worse than polygny.[/quote]

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