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[quote][b]asa wb

Jazakallah for your contribution lovelall.

I take from your response that you do not see women having male companions in paradise and that you see it to be wrong.[/b]

[b]You said[/b]: [orange][b]Presence of more than one male companion seems to be against the dignity, modesty, decency, shyness, purity or chasteness of a woman[/b][/orange]."

[b]I see that you are using the life of women on earth as an example.  Yes on earth a woman would lose some of the things you have mentioned because of good reasons behind them which i have put below.

[blue]1) The passing of diseases due to intimate relationships between many men

2) Allah Swt gave men the responsibility to look after their wives, and therefore are the head of the household.  This cannot be achieved if a woman had several husbands because each one would demand a head position.  Men also tend to be more physical and a woman trying to stop all her husbands fighting is a lot more difficult then a man stopping his wives.

3) Its less likely for a woman to be able to respond to all her husbands intimate needs becuase of her monthly menstrual cycle or when shes pregnant.

4) Also being able to have children with all her husbands is going to be extremely hard and a long process. [/blue]

So these are some common reasons why a woman cannot have more than one partner here, but these reasons cannot be held against her in paradise because no such things can occur there.  There will be no head of the household anymore, no fighting, no arguing, no jealousy, everyone will magically get along.

So with all these reasons thrown out why is it so wrong for a woman to have more than one partner in paradise?  Is it because men are so used to it being the other way here on earth?  Is it because men are so used to being the dominant ones, and dont like the idea of women having the same position?  Is it because men dont like the idea of sharing their wives?

Paradise is a place beyond our imagination, and the life there will not be like the life of this world.  So i do not see the earth life of men and women being the same as the life in paradise.

A woman will not lose dignity, modesty and purity by having more than one partner in paradise.  In paradise she will be able to have her own position next to man and get whatever she desires (that is good and pure) as long as Allah Swt wills.

Companionship is a very important and special thing to have for both men and women (and i am not focusing on intimate relationships).  Women have been prevented from experiencing that here because of very good reasons and from my understanding and beliefs men have been given the option to have more than one wife because of the orphan issue or where women need protection and cannot find a man to marry, i never saw companionship to be the main factor.        
  
[purple]Regarding life in paradise:

I dont think a woman in paradise will have loads of men crowding round her or something at one time and place, but then again only Allah Swt knows.

It could be that each day or whenever she desires she can spend her time with a differenet male companinon.

I dont see anything wrong in that. If a man gets to experience being with differnet females then i see no wrong or shame in the women being able to expereince the same.  It's like getting to be with differnet friends with differnet looks and with differnet personalaties.

You have to remember paradise is not earth.  Paradise is a perfect place.  Allah Swt will protect all women there and make them happy.  If women will have male hoors, then these hoors will not have the faults the men of this world have.  They will have all the good qualities that a women desires in them.  So if a woman simply wants them as comapninons to talk to and have fun with, then why not, if she wants an intimate relationship then why not?

Anyway these are just thoughts about the life of paradise, only Allah Swt knows.  I am trying to give you an idea that men who are so against the idea of woman having hoors dont have good reasons.  I only see jealousy and dominant factors being the reasons as well as the fact that women never had that option in this world.

So what is your reason?  If just say the Holy Quran gave some more detail on hoors and specifically said women will get hoors.  PLease tell me in your honest opinion how you would react.[/purple]
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Edited by: mikai on Saturday, February 19, 2005 8:25 PM[/quote]

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