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[quote]Asallamu Alaykum
I would like to mention a couple of points.
Firstly I fully appreciate that at a very young age of 18 you seem to be coping with a lot of pressure.Lokking after your mother,illness of your wife and her estranged behaviour and full time education.The miscarrige will affect you as well.
However, my personal opinion is that this is not the time to judge or make decisions about leaving your wife.You will not do justice to your marrige or her.She is suffering from what in lay man term can be called a "nervous breakdown". her responses and behaviour do not reflect her true feelings. I would also like to add that at present she needs support and not judgement.
You need to have some mental support yourself,do you have an older person in your family that you ca speak to?
I always read the last few verses of Surah Baqrah in times of trouble and take inspiration from them.verse 286. Allah does not put a burden on anyone's shoulders beyond their means.For it (is only) that which it hath earned, and against it(only) that which it hath earned.Our Lord! Condemn us not if we forget,or miss the mark! Our Lord Lay not on us such a burden as Thou didst lay on those before us! Our Lord! impose not on us that which we have not the strengthto bear! Pardon us, absolve us and have mercy on us.Thou, our protector, and give us victory over the disbelieving folk."
I also quote Surah AL-Nashrah.what Allah said to the Holy Prophet sws.
" But Lo! with hardship goeth ease.Lo! with hardship goeth ease."
My brother1 Life is a test for us to earn an everlasting life in paradise.Please do not make a hasty decision. A muslims way is prayers and patience.Patience is the biggest action and the most favoured and liked by Allah. It is bigger than Jehad or Holy war.I am fully aware that at this moment you have a seemingly easy choice to give up and a difficult one to hang in.Do not choose the short cut. Our prayers and wishes are with you and May Allah find the right way and have Mercy on all of us.[/quote]

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