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ibrahim
PAKISTAN
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 Posted - Monday, May 23, 2005 - 5:53 AM 
Wa Alaikum Salaam dear Ambreen Sis
Being an Experienced HUBBY I can claim that a wife's loving behaviour is MORE than Enough in this REGARD though WORDS have their OWN SWEETNESS. So use them WHEN the IRON is HOT.
I also agree with the POST of Roswell.
God Bless u BOTH.
we'll LOVE to C ur posts after this LIFE TIME Experience
Edited by: ibrahim on Tuesday, May 24, 2005 7:08 AM |
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AMby
PAKISTAN
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Posted - Monday, May 23, 2005 - 8:08 AM
thanx for ur concern....waisay to tell u all the truth i am not excuted i am worried
and do remmerber me in ur duas.... |
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Loveall
PAKISTAN
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Posted - Monday, May 23, 2005 - 9:53 PM
QUOTE: just one more question do u think that a hubby should be told that the wife loves him??????
Why not, she should do?
One thing I want to add is that the she must bring some sort of gift when goes for shopping etc. I can guess most men, unlike women, like me, are happy only by simple gifts like for example a hand-kerchief, tie, belt etc. I mean try come back always not empty handed. And if THE HE is peeping somewhere, must remember too to do the same to bring relatively better gift. Although both (Husband and wife) are gifts of God for each other but these manoeuvres (gifts) add more to prevent the aging process of the marital life. Otherwise the values of the words, “I love you” as Roswell said, steeps down variably from couple to couple.
Edited by: Loveall on Wednesday, June 01, 2005 8:22 PM |
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Loveall
PAKISTAN
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Posted - Saturday, May 28, 2005 - 9:53 PM
In the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful.
Being blessed by God, do not worry. |
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uhmelas
PAKISTAN
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Posted - Monday, May 30, 2005 - 2:48 PM
Mashallah, Salam Amby
My prayers to you. May Allah bless you more. |
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ibrahim
PAKISTAN
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 Posted - Tuesday, May 31, 2005 - 6:10 AM
quote:
QUOTE: So use them WHEN the IRON is HOT.
What does it mean, please?
Sir it only means that " HIT the Iron when it is HOT."
Is it clear NOW? |
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Loveall
PAKISTAN
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Posted - Tuesday, May 31, 2005 - 9:34 PM
Thank you dear Ibrahim,
Sometimes it is difficult to understand the words if not ever heard. I have asked some of my friends too. Some did not know and some told that it was taken in the meanings of, “to easily mould the iron, hit it when hot” So it is a sort of proverb especially of Punjabi language like in Urdu “One melon catches colour from the other one”.
Edited by: Loveall on Wednesday, June 01, 2005 8:24 PM |
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hkhan
UNITED KINGDOM
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 Posted - Friday, June 3, 2005 - 11:24 PM
best wishes amby dear
and to another member of ours, malix, who is getting maried in july insh'Allah
both of them are our community members as well i.e. teachers and I.T.
I think one of the keys to happy marriage is, as to any other good relationship , whether at work or among friends,
to keep a wider eye on one's own duties rather than rights.
this shall hopefully lead to least expectations, forgiveness, forbearance and tolerance; thereby long term and happier relationship insh'Allah.
do bring your spouses to our site as well. after all, importance of good company cannot be denied..... 
Most important! keeping Lord first in every aspect.
also see our recently launched course Family n Marriage. v. useful tips.
Best wishes. our prayers remain with you. 
Edited by: hkhan on Saturday, June 04, 2005 6:13 AM |
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Loveall
PAKISTAN
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Posted - Monday, June 6, 2005 - 12:01 AM
In the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful.
QUOTE: keep a wider eye on one's own duties rather than rights. This shall hopefully lead to least expectations, forgiveness, forbearance and tolerance; thereby long term and happier relationship insh'Allah.
I agree wholly with hkhan who has closed not the river but the ocean into the bowl and if no exaggeration and no hesitation it may be called as the “bowl of love”. Although somewhat bitter but as quoted above “long term and happier relationship insh'Allah” would do supersede the bitterness.
If we learn seriously how to leave the right not to fight for, then no doubt we are successful to create the peace. So far as my knowledge is concerned we are not commanded by the Shariah absolutely to leave no stone unturned to get our rights but leave or forgive too, which is perhaps more rewarding. I mean to say, if the spouses have all the rights to forgive each other’s mistakes, which are not unusual then there must be utilisation of these rights given by God to let the tension, which has the very serious short term and long term effects, succumb on the both sides.
If do not mind, NEVER do the speeches at home as the women do outside the home or at the websites otherwise it would be same as if for example some new drug is experimented by the pharmaceuticals company on their home mates instead of the experimental animals. But as I pointed out in one of my posts earlier in this forum about the “likes and dislikes” one may proceed accordingly.
NOTE: It must be remembered that “keeping a wider eye on one's own duties rather than rights hopefully leading to least expectations, forgiveness, forbearance and tolerance” is never one sided because two hands are required to clap but on contrary, one must do ones own duties for which one is answerable to God.
Wassalam with the saying of God:
And treat them (wives) kindly; then if you hate them it may be that you dislike a thing while Allah has placed abundant good in it (4: 19). |
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Loveall
PAKISTAN
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Posted - Sunday, August 13, 2006 - 2:18 PM
Dear AMby,
Maasha’Allah, you were married on June 10, 2005 [Reference: Your Quote, No. 3 (see below)].
Now, after 14 months, what do you yourself think about your FOLLOWING QUOTES (before your marriage) to suggest for the new couples?
QUOTE, No.1 (May 13, 2005): - just tell me wats the secret of a happy married life.
QUOTE, No.2 (May 14, 2005): - i am soo apprehensive as i c soo many couples sad and soo many married girls suffering coz of one thing or the other....and all of them say nearly one thing that its impossible to understand a man.
QUOTE, No.3 (May 18, 2005): - the date is 10th june ...the place has yet to be finalized....
QUOTE, No.4 (May 21, 2005): - just one more question do u think that a hubby should be told that the wife loves him ???????
Wassaalaam! |
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saba2
Moderator
PAKISTAN
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Posted - Monday, August 14, 2006 - 5:52 PM
Assalam o Alaikum,an unhappy marriage is a very difficult relationship to live through painful for all parties,my prayers are for all you young people that you donot face any problems and if you do to be able to resolve them.
As I said everyone is affected and if there are kids then they are also sucked in.So my prayers are with you and hope none of you face any challenges that you are not capable of facing. Marriage is a beautiful bond and none should loose faith in it or be apprehensive if you meet people who have had it rough. |
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raushan
UNITED ARAB EMIRATES
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Posted - Tuesday, August 15, 2006 - 8:42 AM
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raushan
UNITED ARAB EMIRATES
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Posted - Sunday, August 20, 2006 - 9:15 AM
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latif1928
PAKISTAN
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 Posted - Friday, August 25, 2006 - 3:01 AM
| Well, happiness of a married couple lies on clear understanding that husband is the leader of the house and wife is second in command. Both claiming equal status would not work longer. ( Al-quran 4:34) |
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