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Zulfee
USA
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 Topic initiated on Saturday, July 29, 2006 - 2:12 AM 
The Backbiters!
Some people do backbiting in a hidden and very sophisticated way. Afterwards they tell a lie. They actually are one type of the hypocrites too. They have sidekicks like those of Satan who comes from the front, back and the sides. But those people who worship only one God never come in their traps. They must use and try their Satanic tricks somewhere else.
May God protect everyone from such Satanic Sidekicks and the Tricks! |
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nonstoptaxi
PAKISTAN
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Posted - Sunday, July 30, 2006 - 7:42 AM 
| May God protect zulfee n co. from such Satanic Sidekicks and the Tricks! |
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Zulfee
USA
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Posted - Sunday, July 30, 2006 - 6:34 PM
Another front, back and the side kick- Nonstoptaxi,
Nonstoptaxi, Only you and your whole team are WRONG!!!
Proofs are there. See there!!
You and your team have the front, back and the sidekicks and all the satanic tricks.
May Allah protect everyone from you and your nonsense Team! |
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nonstoptaxi
PAKISTAN
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Posted - Monday, July 31, 2006 - 12:20 PM
Islamic Manners: Discussions and Debates
If you have trouble understanding some of what has been said in meeting, hold your questions until the speaker has finished. Gently, politely, and with proper introduction, ask for clarification. Do not interrupt a person's speech. Never raise your voice with the question, or be blunt to draw attention to yourself. This is contrary to the proper manner of listening, and stirs up contempt. However, this is not the rule if the meeting is for studying and learning. In such a case, asking questions and initiating a discussion is desirable if conducted respectfully and tactfully and only after the speaker finishes. The Khalifah Al-Ma'mun said: "Discussion entrenches knowledge much more than mere agreement."
Al-Haitham ibn Adi, a known scholar, historian, and a member of the court of four Khalifahs: Abu Ja`far al-Mansur, Al-Mahdi, Al-Hadi and Al-Rashid, said: "It is an ill manner to overwhelm someone while speaking and to interrupt them before they end their talk."
If a colleague did not understand an issue and asked a scholar or an elder to explain, you should listen to what is being said. The repeated explanation may give you additional insights to what you already know. Never utter any word belittling your colleague, nor allow your face to betray such an attitude.
When an elder or a scholar speaks, listen attentively. Never busy yourself with a talk or discussion with other colleagues. Do not let your mind wander elsewhere; keep it focused on what is being said.
Never interrupt a speaker. Never rush to answer if you are not very confident of your answer. Never argue about something you do not know. Never argue for the sake of argument. Never show arrogance with your counterparts especially if they hold a different opinion. Do not switch the argument to belittle your opponent's views. If their misunderstanding becomes evident, do not rebuke or scold them. Be modest and kind. A poet once said:
Who could get me a friend
Who if I offend will remain calm
Who would listen intently to what I have to say
When he knows it better than I do
http://www.islaam.com/Article.aspx?id=595 |
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Zulfee
USA
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Posted - Monday, August 28, 2006 - 9:43 PM
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raushan
UNITED ARAB EMIRATES
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Posted - Tuesday, August 29, 2006 - 2:44 PM
By Syed Zamir Ahmed
Pick your teeth!
It's one of the greatest sins and yet it's something we do day after day. Sometimes we don't even realise it. You're just chatting away with your friends and you begin to talk about somebody else. Our whole lives are based around 'Home and Away' and 'Neighbors', based on lying, backbiting and cheating. But look at what the Prophet (saw) said about it: The Prophet (Pbuh) was sitting with his companions one day and one of them was speaking badly about someone who wasn't there. As the man got up to leave the Prophet (saw) said to him: "Pick your teeth!" "But I haven't eaten anything", the man protested. "No", the Prophet (Pbuh) said, "You have eaten the flesh of your dead brother!"
As Allah tells us in the Qur'an: "Would any of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? No, you would hate it." (Qur'an 49:12).
But what if it's true?
The Prophet told us, "Backbiting is to say something about someone they wouldn't like said about them ... If what bad you said about them is true, then you have backbitten and if it is false then you have slandered them!" (Muslim). If you're still not convinced of how big sin backbiting really is, then look at the punishment Allah has in store for the backbiters. The Prophet described: "On the night of Miraaj (the Prophet's ascension to heaven), I passed by some people who had metal hooks in their hands and were clawing at their faces and their necks with them. I asked Jibraeel 'Who were these people?' He said 'These are the people who eat the flesh of human beings and disgrace them' " (Abu Dawud). This is how big a sin as backbiting is looked upon and yet we continue to backbite without a second thought, next time you lie, talk about somebody, remember Allah and the Prophet and put them in front of you before you speak.Just having a laugh!May be we think it's all right to take the mick out of someone so long as we say it to their face. We'll make fun of the way someone talks, walks, or how they look. Allah warns us against such behavior: "O you who believe, let not some men laugh at others, it may be that they are better than you. Nor let some women laugh at others it may be that they are better than you. Nor abuse each other, nor be sarcastic to each other by using offensive nicknames..." (Qur'an 49:11)
Don't forget that Allah made us the way we are, so how can you even think of making fun of his creation? Cool to swear?
Listen to yourself and to your friends speaking one day - nearly every sentence will have a swear word in it, thinking it's cool and macho to swear, copying the idols of TV and the cinema. Is it really 'cool' to swear? The Hellfire is far from being cool. People will wish they were cool then rather than being cool in this world. Remember! That every time you speak, an angel writes down what you say, and that one day you will have to answer for every single word you ever uttered. So if you swear at someone then it's written down as a sin against you. You're only harming yourself. The Prophet said that "abusing a Muslim is a sin and fighting with him is disbelief" (Muslim).But sometimes you just have to swear! We've all been there - you're just so angry with somebody and the only way you can express yourself, is to swear at them. The solution? Don't get angry in the first place. A man came to the Prophet one day and said, "Advise me". The Prophet said, "Don't become angry. Don't become angry. Don't become angry... when one of you gets angry while he is standing up, he should sit down. Then anger will leave him, and if not then he should lie down" (Ahmad). So let us follow this beautiful advice of the Prophet and remember that anger is from satan. If someone angers you or swears at you then don't harm yourself by doing the same, but respond in a better way as Allah says in the Qur'an "Repel evil with what is better. Then he who was your worst enemy will become your best friend." (Qur'an 41:33)
It wasn't me who said it! How often do we say such a phrase or say that "I was only joking". We treat lies as being trivial. However we are told that Allah's messenger did not hate anything more than lying [Ahmed]. The Prophet was once asked "Can a Muslim be a coward?" He replied "Yes". He was then asked "Can a Muslim be a miser?" and the reply was "Yes". The Prophet was again asked "Can a Muslim be a liar?" The Prophet replied "No! A Muslim can never be a liar". Furthermore, he said "Truth leads to virtue and virtue leads to paradise... Lying leads to w©ickedness and wickedness leads to the hellfire." (Bukhari). As we know that one lie leads to another ten lies which leads to bad actions. Remember you can lie and think that you have got away with it, but on the day of Judgment your hands, tongue and feet will bear testimony against you and tell the truth.But it's only words! One day, one of the Companions asked the Prophet : "O Messenger of Allah, will we be called to account for what we say?" He replied: People will be thrown, faces down into the hellfire, only on account to what their tongues said!" (Tirmidhi). Indeed the tongue controls the rest of your body. A well controlled tongue will keep us within Islam but a loose tongue will destroy us. Instead of swearing, lying and engaging in useless talk, we can use our tongues in better ways and what better than telling people about Islam. Allah says: "Who is better in speech than one who calls (people) to Allah and works righteousness and says I am one of those who bow down in Islam" (Qur'an 41:33).Your tongue can save you!Indeed if you control your tongue and speak good then paradise can be yours. The Prophet said: "Whoever can guarantee me two things I can guarantee them Paradise". The companions asked "What, O Messenger of Allah?" He replied: "What is between his jaws (his tongue) and his legs (private parts)" (Bukhari).I must be doomed!"I have lied, backbitten people, and swear all the time. I must be going to hell!" No! Allah (swt) tells us in the Qur'an: "O my servants who have wronged themselves, never despair of the mercy of Allah - for truly He forgives all sins. He is the Forgiving, the Merciful." (Qur'an 39:53). So if you really repent and turn back to Allah and promise not to commit the sin again then truly Allah's promise is true and He will forgive you. If you've backbitten someone - go and tell the person whom you backbitten and apologize sincerely and ask them to forgive you. But if you think that the situation will get worse then turn back to Allah sincerely begging for his forgiveness then to make up for what you said, go around and talk good of him. The best example As we know that the best person to have ever lived is the Prophet Muhammad (Pbuh) and he is the best of example for mankind. If we follow him we can never go wrong. Final word of adviceA beautiful saying of the Prophet that will ensure the protection of our tongue. The Messenger of Allah said: "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last day, LET HIM EITHER SPEAK GOOD OR KEEP SILENT!"
(Courtesy: Young Muslims UK). |
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