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AMby
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 Topic initiated on Wednesday, October 8, 2003 - 4:08 PM 
Kids
Assalam o alykum,
Living in this age of developement we are faced with many problems amongst which is keeping kids safe from media and negative influences ,so for this we have to present to tehm islamic knowledge in such a colourful and bright manner in keepin with ther interests .So for this lets unite and think of ways to teach them and guide them.
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Miss Khan
PAKISTAN
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 Posted - Wednesday, October 8, 2003 - 4:32 PM 
AoA...
Actually this is the responsibility of the media of Islamic world... They should arrange such programs for the kid's interest on TV... Secondly the parents must take out some time for their kids from the daily routine, to narrate to them the stories of Islam quite in an impressive way... They should emphasize especially on reciting Quran and offering prayers right from their childhood instead of forcing them to learn how to speak English and to learn computer....Meanwhile should make them learn very smoothly small Surahs and ayats of Quran, off and on should be heard by them so that they can't forget it... Small things, like reciting BISMILLAH, SHUKAR ALHAMDULILLAH, AOOZO-BILLAH etc should be taught to them that when to use these...
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aslam
PAKISTAN
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Posted - Wednesday, October 8, 2003 - 6:43 PM
Salams,
Al-mawrid has taken a comendable initiative in this regard:Launching a website for kids:-
www.humsubdost.org |
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AMby
PAKISTAN
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Posted - Wednesday, October 8, 2003 - 7:06 PM
Assalam o alykum,
you are right its the parents resposibility , but as a muslim do u think that we should leave that to the parents only ? we are the ummah whose duty is "ammar bin maruf and nahi un il munkar" . We should make presonal efforts as well and make some creative activities that should help keep the kids in their extra time and which should not be boring or dull.
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hkhan
UNITED KINGDOM
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Posted - Thursday, October 9, 2003 - 9:03 PM
waalaykum assalaam
and i think struggling to get them right company/friends is utmostimportant, specially around the tender teenage when amazingly they take so much from peers than parents, who then do not remain the only ideals for them anymore
as now its not only them they r exposed to, no matter what good parents have been teaching to them, since even before birth, inside the wombs, with Qura'n recitation and doing all goods, to highest degree, so the fetus takes all good
they will start takin' ideas from the world/friends around them, of their age |
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AMby
PAKISTAN
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Posted - Friday, October 10, 2003 - 10:48 AM
Assalam o alykum,
You r right that its the exposure that kids get makes them so rebellious towards religion and also towards their family, they tend to think of them as their enemies .And its for us at that time period in their life to show them whats right and whats wrong in such an attractive manner and with such subtlty that they dont even know whats being told ,just like the media that is engraving their own ideas in our mind without our realizing it .
So we have also to make and act accordinlgy taking guidance from Allah who is the most profound psychologist .:)
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hkhan
UNITED KINGDOM
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Posted - Tuesday, October 14, 2003 - 10:48 PM
waalaykum assalaam
u have given a very right title to the Creator
as actually He is the Specialist of each and every aspect of ours
does anyone has any idea re. circles for teenage girls to keep them aware, rather concious of the values, if they have been taught about them as kids already
but environment and friends seem to b effective off and on as i mentioned
what shud we include in those/discussions etc.
as is said not to make it borin' as well |
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AMby
PAKISTAN
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Posted - Thursday, October 16, 2003 - 12:18 PM
Assalam o alykum,
You are right that keeping a constant check on kids esp. teenagers is very difficult , but we have to .. but the key factor is that we shouldnt impose anything on them.We should just present them whats right and whats wrong ...
i dont know of any circles in england but i know some cirlces now started in pakistan under the name of Colours of Islam ,they have very nice books designed for young kids and teenagers with activities so that kids are not bored .
i think small stories should be told to them of Prophets ,and from Sunnah ...now a days we get a lot of interesting books in shops ..
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hkhan
UNITED KINGDOM
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Posted - Thursday, October 16, 2003 - 1:23 PM
waalaykum assalaam
many thanx
personally i hold colours of islam here too same as in pak., but that is for younger age group
i do include scientific facts in it e.g. planets, human body, mechanics etc. explainin' them in context of the relevence to the Creator in all that information
as these children grow up they seem to get bored of these topics and think they know all this
i then try to involve them in teaching the younger/new ones
however they eed circles among their own age group
at this stage they have interest in new things openin' to them like dresses, makeups, their looks etc
b/c no matter how clean we try to keep the evironment they r exposed to a mixed culture and media through school, tv, web
alhamdolillah the strong base remains but they need continous support and guidance
for which parents may not b suitable all the time
then they do not wish to attend pure islamic talks as well
some of our local organistions and bconvert muslim brothers and sisters keep organizing nasheeds/islamic messages songs with some light music for them as an alternative to other entertainments(anyone interested livin' in this area pls visit www.yusufislam.org.uk for the next programme coming up mon 20th oct "night of memory" in albert hall London, next to history museum)
however the ones who keep listenin' to these since their v. young age, now seem to b a bit bored with them too
probably introduced/exposed to other songs from friends etc
i therefore request for more ideas around these matters
will look fwd. to insh'
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AMby
PAKISTAN
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Posted - Thursday, October 16, 2003 - 7:30 PM
Assalam o alykum,
i was soo happy to read that u r also related to colours of islam :)
u r right that its for kids . i am sending u a link which is very good for the teenage girls if u can u must download the chapters .it is designed for grownup girls and here some people are teachhing it .
the url is
www.usc.edu/dept/MSA/humanrelations/womeninislam/idealmuslimah/chapter1.html
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hkhan
UNITED KINGDOM
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Posted - Friday, October 17, 2003 - 1:09 AM
waalaykum assalaam
jazak'Allah again for the v. useful information
will check into this
and hope will b helpful for our teenage girls' circles
as i said, makeup, dresses, etc. nothin' is haraam.
but they need guidance re. limits,
some of them do understand and wear hijab too
but then there r other matters like guidance to the type of music, songs, stories, movies, web pages, tele programmes, most importantly, friends
and to keep distinguishin' b/w right ad wrong
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AMby
PAKISTAN
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Posted - Friday, October 17, 2003 - 6:34 PM
Assalam o alykum,
i am glad to be of any help :) i was just thinking that we dont have to tell them abt anything ....we just have to inculcate Allah's love in them .. it will automatically make them act accordingly to the teachings of islam .
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hkhan
UNITED KINGDOM
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Posted - Saturday, October 18, 2003 - 1:27 AM
i agree with that totally and it has helped me always in dealin' with them
'cause no matter how good friends parents prove to b, they need the concept of the Friend Who will b with them forever
wassalaam
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AMby
PAKISTAN
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Posted - Tuesday, October 21, 2003 - 2:39 PM
Assalam o alykum,
boredom is just a frame of our mind.. i was listening to a scolar the other day and he was narrating incidents of his child hood that he never felt bored all his life as there was no concept of boredom then.. whomever was free used to indulge in some creative work.. but i think the problem with our youth now is that they dont have any hobbies as T.V. and Computer has taken all their extra time and energies.. we should infuse in them a spirit of that lost adventure in them once again and make them realize that this precious life is just being passing by and is being wasted by us in such ueless tasks .....
some social work like going to old homes or to orphanages should be encouraged...
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AMby
PAKISTAN
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Posted - Tuesday, October 21, 2003 - 2:41 PM
Assalam o alykum,
here r some Tips for everyone to prevent Pornography!
It’s hard, especially when you’re a teenager and bombarded with images of sexuality: that hot-looking scantily clad guy or gal in the magazine, grinning at you and luring you; or the persistent emphasis on sex in the movies (even Toy Story!); or the pervasive links to pornography and ad banners that pop up while you may simply be checking your e-mail or researching something for school. How does a young Muslim protect him or herself from all of this? Below are some tips that can help:
Tip 1. Know what is Halal (lawful) and what’s not
We may think only hard core pornography is Islamically unacceptable. This is not true. Improperly dressed men and women, sexual situations, foreplay, kissing, touching, dirty jokes: none of these are Islamically acceptable. Talk to a trusted Muslim friend, family member of the same gender or an Imam about this. Bring it up and ask them to give you the Islamic perspective.
Tip 2. Remember your accountability to Allah
In America and some other countries, you’re fully responsible for your actions when you turn 18. In Islam, you’re fully accountable as soon as you understand these things. So that means that from that point onwards, you cannot assume looking at this stuff is no big deal. Your eyes will testify about what you looked at on the Day of Judgment. Remember that Allah is always watching. He is Most Just and Merciful, and He rewards us for the good and punishes us for the bad we do.
Tip 3. Become conscious of the Haram (unlawful)
Too often, it’s easy to dismiss that billboard with the spandex-and-bikini-top-clad blonde girl advertising gum, or the guy in tight leather pants and no shirt advertising perfume. When you see it, remember the Islamic perspective, your accountability to Allah, and lower your gaze. Do the same for television and the internet. If you keep doing this, insha-Allah, it’ll become a habit, and eventually an automatic reaction.
Tip 4. If feeling overwhelmed, remember Allah
In situations where you feel overwhelmed and can’t get yourself to switch the channel, close the browser window or turn your eyes away from the billboard, ask Allah’s help. You don’t necessarily need any heavy duty, long Dua's. "La hawla wa la quwwata illa billah" (there is no power or ability except with Allah) is short, simple, and reminds you who is really in control and can help you out of this.
Tip 5. Seek refuge in Allah from Shaitan
Shaitan lured you into this mess. Seeking refuge in Allah (saying awthu/awoozoo billahi minash Shaitan ir rajeem), will help you resist him and his whisperings to continue looking at the material.
Tip 6. Get up and leave
If you feel unable to control looking at the screen or the magazine, leave the situation. Get out of the living room, your bedroom where the internet is, or where you’ve been reading the magazine. Take a walk. Just do something to physically get out of the situation.
Tip 7. Avoid those involved in pornography
If one of your friends is into pornographic magazines, websites, dirty jokes etc. either help him or her change through gentle and sincere advice, or abandon frequent contact with them. Their compulsion will affect you, so it’s best to stay as far away as possible, by remembering the danger to yourself, your Deen, and your relationship with Allah.
Tip 8. Stay away from places where it’s found
Sometimes it’s on a billboard on a highway and you can’t miss it. But often times, you’ll notice certain parts of your city (the seedier ones) tend to be filled with this kind of material (where there are usually strip joints, for example). Avoid these places as much as you can. If it’s on your way to school, try to change your route. Also, in summer, stay away from the beach.
Tip 9. Surf or watch TV when others are around
The temptation to sneak a look at dirty pictures or that bikini-clad babe is heightened when you’re alone in your room watching television or surfing the internet. Try to avoid late night TV and internet surfing. Instead, watch or surf when others are around so you can resist the urge to sneak a peek, thinking no one’s watching (and remember Allah is always watching). It is a good idea not to have TV or computer in the bedroom anyway. Living room or study room is a better place for this stuff.
Tip 10. Remember your example
If you have younger brothers and sisters, think of the bad example you’re setting for them. What message will they get if they barge into your room and catch you watching Baywatch or flipping through Playboy.
Tip 11. For brothers, remember your mom and sister
Disgusting right? Exactly. No one in his right mind would look at his mom or sister the way many of us look at the Baywatch babes or the girls on the internet or in magazines. Remember mom and your sister, and that should sicken you enough to stop, insha-Allah.
Tip 12. Have someone watch over you
If you really feel you’re becoming addicted to this kind of material, try to watch TV, surf the internet with someone else. You don’t have to tell them why you’re doing this, but this method can perhaps keep you in check and help you avoid looking at pornography or other similar material. After all, Shaitan tempts us most easily when we’re alone. Sitting in the company of a family member or good Muslim friend will insha Allah, help.
Tip 13. Fast
The Prophet (p.b.u.h.) advised us to fast to cool passions. This should be a method we use to handle the desire aroused by pornography and similar material.
Tip 14. Do Tawba and return to Allah
If you do end up watching the bad stuff, repent to Allah. Seek His forgiveness, reaffirm your faith in Him, and do good deed to compensate for that sin. He is All-Forgiven as long as you are sincere.
Tip 15. Repent again and fine yourself
If you lapse, do tawba again. Allah is All-Forgiving as long as we mean it. But then you need to discipline yourself by promising to yourself that if I did it again, I will pay this much in charity or fast for a day.
The message is that don’t give up on yourself. Keep trying. Struggle is life. Shaitan could be creative. And with the help of Allah, you will be the winner insha Allah.
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hkhan
UNITED KINGDOM
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Posted - Wednesday, October 22, 2003 - 1:05 AM
peace/asalamo alaykum
many thanx/jazakAllah br/sr for v. useful tips
one v. important point to remember though is that we must always keep ourselves in their place.
a teenager wud not worry about wastin' precious time as we do and what we have learnt over years
they do think that its their time to relax after hard school work, or after salah or after readin' Qura'n
and that relaxation should b channelized to healthy activities like sports, visitin' museums,religious entertainments etc as well and not only tv and computer/electronics(as they wud not giveup the later completely, except few, and they can learn good from these sources as well. we cannot keep them away "'cause the world is not a box")
however i do try to make them realize that concept of teenage in islam is diff than what it is in west
in islam puberty imposes responsibilities as medically/hormonally as well a person is getting physically and mentally more mature so its expected from him/her to act in more responsible manner
therefore salah and fast becomes fard/compulsory as well around this time to disciplne the new adult
its then expected that he/she wud b more caring and sensitive to people around
whereas in the western culture with time the concept of enterin' teenage has somehow turned into bein' more careless, more childish, havin' right to b more intolerant and more harmful to others, do whatever one wishes to without thinkin' of consequences, waste as much time as possible, find a girl/boy friend asap before mates start callin' "borin'", "lonely" etc
we need to inculcate correct concept re. teenage
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