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rehan888
CANADA
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 Topic initiated on Tuesday, October 19, 2004 - 5:43 AM 
help me!!
aslam aelikum
plz help me with this.....i am relaly afraid of death....i mean its effecting my mind.....its like im gonna die the next moment....im not normal anymore...plz help me to how to beacom normaly active in society and how to forget the fear in a way tht i atleast dont effect my health......only thing thts calmin me down is quran alhumdillah |
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hkhan
UNITED KINGDOM
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 Posted - Tuesday, October 19, 2004 - 10:57 AM 
Pls do post it to our Communities forum as well
http://www.studying-islam.org/forum/forum.aspx?forumid=36
for Psychologists.
You can also find their email addresses there.
You are on the right track in the mean time i.e. Contact with Qura'n.
Indeed its a book where we need to jump in just like the juma'n jee game ; being a part of it. and Ramadan is the best time to do that 
wassalaam n regards
henna
Dr.HKhan
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Aaliyah
UNITED KINGDOM
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 Posted - Tuesday, October 19, 2004 - 2:04 PM
In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful. All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
Perhaps you need to think about what triggers your fear? Do you feel you have committed some sins? Or you worried about the hellfire? What is it that makes you scared? because it is important to put it into perspective. This crippling fear is from shaytan- it stops you from doing any good and thus receiving Allahs rewards. The closer one is to Allah the harder Shaytan will try to push us away from the sirat Al-mustqeem. May Allah protect us all. Sister, what u r doing by reciting Quran and turning to Allah mashalah is very good becuase it wrds of the shaytan and you find Sakinah in this. This is just a test from Allah and inshallah build your tawakkul so much that not a mountain can break it inshallah. Allah is so compassionate we as humans dont even have the capacity to begin to think of the immense comapssion our merciful Lord Allah swt carries for us. So remember Allah will wil be mercifult o you inshallah and help you through this if you turn to him. Contemplate on the meanings of Allahs names- that should be enlightening inshallah and comforting. Allah will protect you. It may be just that this is a reminder for you and us all to try harder to please Allah and give up our sins as much as we can as Allah calls us close to him, inshallah. I hope this has been of some help inshallah. May Allah bless you and protect you. Ameen.
I found the following beneficial points in an article on Islamonline. I think it may be of use to you sister.
Sheikh Ahmad Kutty, a senior lecturer and Islamic scholar at the Islamic Institute of Toronto, Ontario, Canada, states:
You have been conditioned in fear.
Now as for what you must do now, the beginning of the healing process is for you to convince yourself that you are not doomed to be a prisoner of your past; you have the ability and power if you choose to transcend your bad past; you have the power to choose the kind of present and future you wish for yourself not tomorrow or weeks or months from now, but from today itself.
The way to go about achieving your healing is to convince yourself that you would not allow yourself to be a prisoner of the past. Tell yourself that you can rise above it by having sound faith in Allah, trusting in Him, and taking the necessary steps.
Here are a few tips you can put into practice immediately to reverse the process and recondition yourself to free yourself from those fears and anxieties that are crippling you.
1. List each of the fears that creeps into your mind and analyse them one by one and dismiss them as being completely irrational and unfounded.
2. Remember the fear is an acquired habit; just as you have acquired it through conditioning, you have the power to break free of it through conditioning. So think, read, see, and reflect on stories or scenes or narratives that develop courage, trust, and hope, and thus reverse the fears.
3. The surest way to overcome fear is to know that Allah alone is All-Powerful and to believe that nothing can happen to you except by the will of Allah.
4. The devils and evil spirits that you are worried about have no independent power of their own, as Allah has assured us in the Qur’an. Their power is derived from Allah, so you can surely defeat them by aligning yourself with Allah, Who alone is Irresistible, and All-Powerful. Allah says, “As for My servants, you (i.e. Satan) cannot exercise any control over them; your Lord is sufficient for you to place your trust in” (Al-Isra’: 65).
5. In order to align yourself with Allah and derive strength from the Source of all power, you must perform your daily Prayers as diligently and as consciously as you can, with feeling and reverence. Remember, as Allah said, “Lo, it is only through remembrance of Allah that hearts find true peace and tranquility” (Ar-Ra`d: 28).
6. Besides performing daily Prayers, make dhikr (remembrance of Allah) your second habit. This can be done by repeating words and phrases such as “subhana Allah; al-hamdu lillah; la ilaha illa Allah; wa la hawla wa la quwwata illa billah; Allahu Akbar,” (glory be to Allah; praise be to Allah, there is no god but Allah; there is no strength to gain good nor power to resist evil except by the will of Allah; Allah is Great). As Imam Ibn Al-Qayyim said, “Consistency in dhikr removes all fear, feelings of insecurity, restlessness and anxiety that assail the soul and bestows a true sense of joy, peace, serenity, and peace.” This is not a mere claim; it has been experienced by millions of people throughout the ages, and you can also experience it yourself, if only you condition yourself with it.
7. Seek refuge and protection only in Allah. Let these du`a’ be part of your daily practice, in the morning as well as at night before retiring to bed:
Bismillahi alladhee la yadhurru ma`ismihi shay’un fil-ardi wa la fi-s-sama’i wa huwa as-samee`u al-`aleem.
(In the name of Allah, with His name nothing whatsoever on either earth or heaven can inflict any harm; He is the All-Hearing, All-Knowing.)
Hasbiya Allahu la ilaha illahuwa `alayhi tawakkaltu wa huwa rabbu-l-`arshi al-`azheem.
(Allah is sufficient for me; there is no god but Him; in Him alone I place all my trust; He is the Lord of the Mighty Throne.)
Rabbi a`oodhu bika min hamazati ash-shayateeni wa a`oodhu bika an yahdhurooni.
(My Lord, I seek refuge and protection in You from whisperings of devils, and I seek Your protection against their presence around me).
Repeat them as many times as you can in the morning and at night while believing that your prayer is heard by Allah, then feel the grace and protection of Allah.
8. Read the Qur’an; especially the following before going to bed: Surat Al-Fatihah, Ayat Al-Kursi (Surat Al-Baqarah: 255), Surat Al-Ikhlas, Surat Al-Falaq, and Surat An-Nas.
9. Finally, close it all with the following du`a’ for overcoming insomnia:
Allahumma gharat an-nujum, wa hada’at al-`uyun wa anta hayyun qayyoom, la ta’khudhuka sinatun wa la nawm; ihdi laylee wa anim `aynee.
(O Allah, stars have set, eyes have rested; You alone are the Ever-Alive, and the Self-Subsisting Source of all beings; neither slumber nor sleep overtakes You. Make my night comforting for me, and bring sleep unto my eyes.)”
Excerpted, with slight modifications, from: www.muslims.ca
If you still fell you need help, try to seek advice from an Islamic counsellor inshallah.
Take Care sister.
Wasalaam |
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rehan888
CANADA
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Posted - Tuesday, October 19, 2004 - 5:50 PM
aslam aleikum
jazak allah khair for the reply.....i have done some sins but i have asked forgiveness in a true way...only fear is of adhab al qabr....ill try the advice from sheikh kutty inshllah....jazak allah |
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