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hkhan
UNITED KINGDOM
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 Topic initiated on Sunday, July 6, 2008 - 6:06 AM 
Going out without the Husband’s Permission
Out of many other misconceptions about women & islam, this is one and if we look at the details below, we can see how this saying of the beloved prophet sws (pbuh) got misinterpreted.the main stress is on harmony & discipline of the house /family in which both the spouses play key role & must adapt accordingly.
Going out without the Husband’s Permission
There is a Hadith which says that a lady must seek permission from her husband for going out:
عن بن عمر عن النبي أن امرأة أتته فقالت ما حق الزوج على امرأته فقال … لا تخرج من بيته إلا بإذنه (سنن البيهقي الكبرى رقم: ١٤٤٩٠)
Ibn ‘Umar reports from the Prophet that once a lady came to the Prophet and asked him about the rights of a husband on his wife. He replied: … she should not leave his house without his permission. (Sunan Bayhaqi, No: 14490)
It needs to be appreciated that a family by analogy is similar to a state. All citizens of a state are expected to abide by the rules and regulations of the country they live in. They are expected to adopt an attitude of adjustment and harmony with the country. This, of course, does not mean that they cannot differ with its policies. They have the inalienable democratic right to differ and present their differences in a befitting manner. This submission is actually an essential requirement for discipline and order without which anarchy may result. Similarly, in the case of a family set up, it is essential that the person who is its head be shown obedience. In other words, submission to authority is not specific to the gender of the authority. Whoever is the authority, must be submitted to. Gender does not dictate submissiveness – it is authority which does. It is common knowledge that in different sphere of activities people have different abilities and justice entails that a person be made responsible according to his or her abilities and given authority on that basis. We have been informed by divine revelation that it is the husband who is more suitable to be the head of the family. Owing to this relative superiority, women are directed to submit to men not because men are superior human beings, but because in this particular case it is the men who have been vested with authority in accordance with 4:34. If women had been more suitable for the task of heading a family, men would have been similarly directed to adopt this attitude of adjustment.
Thus Islam requires that the wife adopt an attitude of adjustment and harmony with the husband and the husband is required to be affectionate and accommodating as far as possible to the needs of his wife. He must not impose any undue restrictions on her for this will ignite the wrath of God upon him.
With regard to a wife seeking her husband’s permission before leaving the house, the proper perspective must be understood. In general circumstances of mutual trust, there is no need for a wife to ask permission from her husband to go out. However, in certain circumstances in which the husband genuinely considers that going out might disrupt the family in any way, he has the authority to exercise his right of stopping her and in these circumstances, she should always ask permission to leave the house. In this regard, the husband must remember that if he imposes himself without any sound and justifiable reason, he would be crossing the bounds and invoking the displeasure of the Almighty. His wrong behavior may even lead the wife to abandon him for which he would be solely responsible. |
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Mikai
UNITED KINGDOM
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Posted - Saturday, July 19, 2008 - 8:43 PM 
Asa wb
Well explained. When you look at it deeper, a clear message is brought out.
I completely respect those men as the head of the house who base their decisions according to the guidelines of Islam so that it is for the benefit of his wife and family.
Men also have specific characteristics that make them much more sutiable as figures of authority. They are naturally more dominant, have a desire for being in charge and are physically stronger. I have to add that they have an advantage in certain areas of intelligence and the decisions they make are not affected as much by emotions. So compared to women, men are more sutiable for the role.
Edited by: mikai on Saturday, July 19, 2008 8:46 PM |
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