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Reflections

 

In the Name of Allah,
the Most Gracious,
the Ever Merciful

 

 

Can you do it for me..?? (Family Unit~the Divine Will!)

 

The other day I saw a lady at my Clinic and besides her illness she also complained that because her husband is busy with work and also with another woman who he says is 'his 1st love' of the past, who he cannot leave so she is very depressed and sad because his absence from home & disinterest in family is not only affecting her health but also her young children are suffering.

She was brought here from Pakistan after being married to, has got children now but Mr.. hubby who lived here has disclosed many facts since. The mother and sisters in law support the husband and tell her to just look after children and home and stop interfering in the husband's private matters. Secondly he has financial issues as well coz he has to support her and children and also parents and off and on 'the 1st love' as well with whom he has physical relationship but has not married her yet, however he may as he says.

This is not a new story. We keep coming across lots of these from many of our Pakistani ladies who have been married and brought over from Pakistan in similar situations.

I suggested the lady also keeps herself busy by doing some job and earning money ~make herself and children strong and then decide her own affairs but she said that the husband is not letting her visa status changed to resident, he says that would cost him money so she could rather stay in an illegal status and hence unable to take any job, (although she has some education to earn a job for herself). the good point in her story was that the husband did not mind handing her passport and she could get it done herself if she wished to.

So I gave her some links for help, our local Pakistan Welfare centres and also some other suggestions how to take a temporary job in order to collect some money for the immigration work and so on.

I suggest to all our sisters to educate themselves more and more both in the subjects of 'deen and dunya' ; depending on the financial status of the house try and earn some money and keep themselves busy as well as strong. To explain to husbands gently where they were going wrong spoiling their own fortune, but if they did not seem to be bothered , just continue to strengthen their own relationship with God and keep themselves busy in positive activities including the care of their children~ so finally they are able to make decisions in order to live a better life.

In an ideal world, it would be best if the husbands take a heed and change their ways, agree to sacrifice their interests in favour of the family and cooperate with the wives to make the unit strong. But if not, the wife will have to do this job herself. Allah has put her in this test and if she remains strong and patient, He will bring her out of this, slowly but surely!

Sometimes we are lucky to get a chance to speak to the spouse. The lady was clever, as her husband called her to pick her up, she invited him to see the doctor while she would look after the kids outside.

Although she was my last patient and I really had to go because I had a commitment with children, but did not wish to loose this opportunity." It wouldn't take more than another few minutes I suppose, just talking to him. Who knows if it helps saving a family unit~the back bone of the society we wish to make better.." I thought looking at the innocent but tired and sad face of this young sister of mine and smiled at her." Ok send him in." The radiance of hope on her beautiful face surrounded by a scarf made me feel that my decision to stay back was right.

I spoke to Amar (name changed due to confidentiality) for about 15 mins and was glad to see that he was an intelligent and receptive young British-Pk lad as most of our young brothers are. It's just that they need a bit of guidance & direction with the help of not only worldly, but also of a religious and spiritual input. We talked about the concept of Sacrifice in Islam as taught by our Grand Prophet Ibrahim sws and as is followed by all the prophets. What it actually means for us when we celebrate Eid ul Adha every year and how is he now being tested whether he could make a sacrifice to save his family in order to seek the pleasure of His Creator.

I am hopeful that with faith based education of the couples, our sisters can have a better future insh'Allah and our families can see better days than those of misery and loss.

Summary: The issues around family unit and it's survival are not limited to the Western communities only. Our Asian community is also not safe from the clutches of ignorance leading to selfishness & breakups. The solution lies in their guidance and education based on faith, at every level~insh'Allah

 

Author: Dr. Henna Khan

 

 

URL: http://www.studying-islam.org/articletext.aspx?id=1204

 

In this Issue

Reflections
* 'Can you do it for
    me..? (Family unit the
     Divine Will!)'
 

Read & Reflect
* Some Popular
    Misconceptions of
   the Muslims

 

 Debate & Discuss
Discussion Forum:
    Understanding the
    Sunnah
 

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* General Discussion
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    of Children

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Women Travelling with a Mahram

Author: Javed Ahmad Ghamidi

Tr. by Shehzad Saleem

 

The Prophet (sws) is reported to have forbidden women from travelling without a mahram and has said that they are not allowed to travel alone. The period of this journey is mentioned in some narratives to be one, in some others to be two and still others to be three days and nights respectively. This prohibition, it needs to be appreciated, is not an absolute one. It is a precautionary prohibition meant to protect a person from harm. Its addressees are also the individuals of a society in their personal capacity, and is not addressed to state authorities. Moreover, it is evident that such directives relate to circumstances. Keeping in view the importance of a lady’s chastity and modesty in Islam, it was essential that they be stopped from travelling alone because of the circumstances which prevailed in Arabia in the times of the Prophet (sws). People in those times used to travel on foot or on horses and camels. Destinations which today can be reached in hours were accessed in those days in weeks and at times in months. Passengers would travel alone or in caravans and sometimes would even have to encounter forests and deserts on their way. At night time, they would have to spend the night under the open sky with other members of the caravan or in rest-houses of unknown cities. If in these circumstances, women were asked to travel with a mahram in order to protect them and to guard their reputation, every upright person can easily understand the wisdom behind this directive.

The current times, on the other hand, have revolutionized the means of transport. Distances which were covered in months are now covered in hours. There are extra-ordinary arrangements to protect people in buses, trains and aeroplanes. Great changes have also come about in rest-houses and hotels. A hundred years ago, people were hesitant in sending their sisters and daughters from one village to another. Today, however, one is not even hesitant in sending them to Europe and America. The journey to Makkah for the purpose of hajj too has become secure to the ultimate extent and women can safely travel with their women of acquaintance to Arabia to offer the rites of hajj. This great change in circumstances entails that this directive should not relate to current forms of travel, and women be allowed to travel alone or in groups in any way they can keeping in view their needs in case there is no danger envisaged in this travelling. However, they must always keep in consideration the fact that their honour must remain protected in all circumstances, and they must not show any negligence in this regard while leaving their houses. If they believe in God and His Prophet (sws), they should not be indifferent in this matter.

(Translated from Maqāmāt by Shehzad Saleem)

 

More at URL: http://www.monthly-renaissance.com/issue/content.aspx?id=1164

 

Debate and Discuss:

 
 

 

Discussion Forum: Understanding the Sunnah

 

Topic: Status of Fiqh

 

 

maskxone

If we accept that Sunnah is transmitted through Tawatur and its transmission is independent of Ahadith. Also Ahadith can not add to the corpus of religion. Now as I understand Fiqh is derived from Quran and Ahadith. So the questions are:

1) If Ahadith are not source of Islam then what is the status of Fiqh which is derived from Ahadith.

2) Fiqh makes certain things lawful or unlawful for Muslims based on Qayas. Are we obliged to follow the fiqh?

3) Majority of the Muslims believe that Ahadith are the primary source of Sunnah. Now if a Muslim state is formed and rulers are from the majority. What will be method of forming the constitution? Will they base it on Sunnah or Ahadith or Fiqh. And if its Fiqh which school or sect will they follow? According to your opinion will this be a true Islamic state if they follow the Ahadith strictly or any one of the sects?

 

Tariq Hashmi (Moderator)

Would like you to keep in mind the following two things and also first resolve the issue what fiqh is. It will make it easier for both of us to understand each other.

1. We believe that all the schools of thought follow the basic contents of religion, the Qur'an and the Sunnah. Some differ only in considering the individual reports as Sunnah. None of them has lost the true source.

2. Ahadith are every important explanatory source. They tell us the Prophetic wisdom and his understanding of the religious directives and his uswah hasanah the way he discharged the religious directives) and his life history.

Also please note that a Muslim state can rightfully make laws based on social customs which have have no basis in religion. The sources of religion and sources of Religious Knowledge in Islam are different things.

Please comment. And explain what do you understand by the Fiqh and the nature of difference between the four schools for example.

 

ibrahim

1) Surely Ahadith Cannot be THE LONE source for any Religious Matter. On the Other Hand they are The MOST reliable Source for the "Uswa" of Pro. Muhammad (sws) & his Wisdom & Seerah etc. & that's why Hadith is SO Important, So we Do NOT Degrade it.

The Prevailing Fiqhs give us light in many parts of the Shariah of Islam that are based on Qur'an and Sunnah, and what they have said on the basis of Ahadith, that is still very helpful for our Knowledge as it always progresses on the basis of the work done in the past.

2) The things that has been declared lawful or unlawful in The Fiqhs based on Qayas etc. are just the "Ijtihaad" (i.e. opinion) of these great scholars but we are not obliged to follow any thing other than Qur'an & Sunnah. But if one is satisfied with any opinion of these great scholars (in a certain matter) should follow him, This means that one can follow one Fiqh in a matter and can follow any other Fiqh in another matter unless & untill he is doing this on the basis of some solid reasonign & not doing so just because of his mere will/likeness etc.

3) Its only the majority of the current Muslims who believe that the Ahadith are the primary source of Sunnah/Islam. The Fact is that almost allL (more than 90%) Great scholars of the past (including Imam Shafi) are of the Opinion that the Holy Quran and the "Khabar-e-Mutawatir (i.e. the Sunnah)" are the only Primary sources of Islam & Hadith should related to them & should be Accepted behind them as a secondary source but then the Likes of Imam Shafi'i & Imam Ibn-e-Hazam have presented their own opinion based on some other factors that hadith is Always Based on these two primary sources & If there looks some contradiction then that is because of our "Fehm (Understanding)" etc. So one may (or may not) accept their opinion if he agrees (ot Does not agree) with their reasoning.
 

Please Note that All states of Muslims (eg. Pak. SA, Iran, Iraq, Afghanistan ...) are "Muslim" states as Muslims are in majority in them so the method of forming the constitution in them is very simple. All matters shoud be discussed in The parliament & if there is difference of opinion then the vote majority will be the rule (i.e in only those cases where there is no direct/clear order present in Quran & Sunnah) and surely the "ijtihaad of parliament" Will be based on Quran & Sunnah (The direct sources) & it's obvious that they'll benefit too from the guidance present in Ahadith or Fiqh of ALL schools/sects But People will be BOUND to FOLLOW the rules Passed by the Parliament only.

But the people who do not agree the passed rules will adopt the same procedure for trying to change that rule as they do now in their daily.

I hope this will Help us in carrying on this discussion ahead.
 

maskxone

Thank you for the detailed reply. Sorry for replying late as I am busy with office work. I would like to point out my understanding:

1) By Fiqh I mean the laws. Or the methods to form the laws. I think (i am not sure though) that all these Imams had different approach. e.g. some gave more importance to Sunnah and others gave more Importance to Ahadith.

2) I understand your opinion on the status and meaning of Sunnah and Ahadith. And it seems very logical to me. (I believe in applying logic to religion and MashaAllah our religion is complete in that sense too)

3) Now my confusion is more related to certain laws which are not found in Quran and Sunnah but we get them from Narration which can have some doubt (even if its iota of doubt). E.g. lets take the example of stonning by death. I know the logic behind this punishment and i accept that. Also it has very strict conditions which are very unlikely to exist for this punishment to be executed. Now i am not sure about it but if we say that this law is know through ahadith. And Ahadith are not 100% reliable. But according to fiqh based on ahadith this punishment is allowed. ( I feel that punishments like these are allowed in Islam but not encouraged and it is upto Qazi to decide depending on situation). But if extreme punishments like these are only known by ahadith can these be established as law of the country? Is there a chance that a Qazi giving such punishment may be going beyond the allowed limits?

This was my original question.
 

Your answers are very nice and explaining. But can you elaborate further on the last point. "Is there a chance that a Qazi giving such punishment may be going beyond the allowed limits?"

 

Tariq Hashmi (Moderator)

As I tried to explain in my earlier response national laws can be formed even on customs and cultural values. The Ahadith when we have seen that do not go against the Qru'an, the Sunnah, the established historical facts and common sense are also extremely important explanatory source. They tell us the way the Prophet understood and applied the religious directives. Therefore, the Muslim scholarship has used them as a very important tool.

Punishment of rajam cannot be given merely on the pretex that the ahdadith show that some of the people were punished this way. The Qur'an in no unclear terms tells that the punishment of adultery is flogging the criminal with a hundred lashes and cancelling his nikah with a chaste partner and rejection of his testimony in future.

However, the Prophet did stone some people according the Qur'anic directive regarding the punishment of those who create nuisance in the land (fasaad fil ardh). These criminals were not stoned because they were married but because they had started raping the innocent women openly making a mockery of law and putting the society in danger.
 

This punishment has been mentioned in the Surah Maidah of the Quran verse 4.

A Qazi has to see whether an accused merely committed adultery forced by passion or his act is tantamount to creating disorder in the society. He has to use his full knowledge and do all possible investigation before sentencing the criminal. If he had done this honestly he will not be crossing the limits.

 

see: http://www.studying-islam.org/forum/topic.aspx?topicid=1798&lang=&forumid=14

 

 

Express and Explain:


General Discussion Forum:
Upbringing of children
 

UmmBatul
This is my first post on this forum, but raising my children to be true Muslims is my main concern these days.

I have two children, mashaAllah. My oldest is a little less than four years old and my youngest is 8 months old, mashaAllah.

Recently, I've been having some discipline problems with my oldest, so I've been concentrating on discipline and obedience with her--and it's helping in all areas, mashaAllah. At some point, I decided that if I couldn't convince her to be obedient to her parents, then it wouldn't be surprising if I couldn't convince her to be obedient to Allah ta'ala and His messenger.

It's been a little over a month and mashaAllah, my older daughter is now learning Qur'an as she should (she knows Surah al-Fatiha, Surah al-Asr, Surah al-Ikhlas, and Surah an-Nas, mashaAllah), she "prays" when I pray and enjoys it, mashaAllah, she says dua after prayer and before sleeping, mashaAllah, and she greets people with Salam, mashaAllah!

Alhamdulillah for everything!

I really had a lot of trouble with her before, subhanAllah. Not so much with Islam (she's so young, mashaAllah!), but with other behaviors...but with her behavioral changes, she seems to want to learn more about the Deen as well, mashaAllah.

Fi aman Allah!

Katherine

hkhan (Moderator)
salam & welcome to our forums sister

it's amazing how the younger generation has been given the skill of following parents. no matter wat we ask them to watch or read, their 2nd role model remains parents. we do hold a tremendous responsibility in this matter. may Allah help us so with perseverance. amen

hkhan (Moderator)
& the same rule applies to teachers; being role models for their students

drhennataimoor

raising up children definitely requires role models for .... even for me as a mum I need what do guidance as to what to do , and in my subconscious my mum is my role model ..... i wish i could be as patient and firm yet extremely loving ..... i keep praying , hopefully someday i will be inshallah.

I remember how she used to discipline us ,made us stand behind the door for a couple of minutes , mum and dad barely ever shouted , she was and still is so lucky she could control us with her stern looks .

She never forced religion upon us , but she inculcated the fear of Allah in our hearts at a very young age. All she did was pray five times and i would often see her praying tahajjud and crying in her prayers, which seemed so strange to me as a child ,she didn't wear hijab then yet i never found her lying or backbiting,
 

I barely saw her complaining ever on any thing . in times of trouble i found her saying 'when Allah wills' nearly always and i used to think what does she mean by that , how can she keep on waiting and waiting when this thing should happen ..... but over the years i saw her patience always rewarded her and now with a more mature mind i can only look back to her with respect.

When I first started trying to learn about and try to practice Islam as I learnt from an Islamic circle in medical school, she was my first support , with little things and big ones.

Alhamdulilah she gave us a strong foundation , and let us decide , so now if I pray its my own relation with Allah , not fear of making my parents cross.

I keep trying for my children and pray loads too , though I am not as good as her yet

I've put my faith in Allah He will not let my miniscule efforts and loads of prayers go in waste. Inshallah.

And we can all pray for our children and all Muslim children and all mums working hard on them.
For All mums May Allah grant us success in this field.



 

 

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Does a True Islamic Society Exist?
Posted on: Sunday, June 30, 2009 - Hits: 3


Question:
Is there any state in the world which is a true Muslim state, following only the Laws of Islam? If yes, please mention the name. If no, then how can we tell non-Muslims what our society, culture and laws are and where they can be witnessed?

 

Answer:

Your question suggests that Islamic invitation to non-believers assumes an ideal Islamic State to convince its addressees. The truth is that although a good Islamic environment is always helpful in convincing many people, it is not an essential precondition for delivering the message. Islamic message is first and foremost based on its beliefs. There are fundamental questions about life which every human being no matter wherever he/she lives wants to get answers to. The Islamic message addresses those questions more than anything else. However, we do need to have certain norms which are to be followed if the basic presentation of Islam is accepted. Some of those norms are applicable to our individual life and some to our collective life. A non-Muslim is certainly more likely to be attracted towards the Islamic message if there are good examples around, both individual as well as collective. However, the message itself is not dependant upon these examples for its authentication. However, given the fact that we know that God Almighty would take into account the circumstances of an individual while deciding about his/her fate in the Hereafter, in case of those who received the message of Islam in an environment where no good examples were available, He is likely to treat such cases more leniently.

wassalam

Dr Khalid Zaheer

 


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