In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Ever Merciful
All is Well …!
Not always do our plans
materialize; not always do our expectations fetch congruous results; not always
do our efforts bear fruit. And then, at times we are faced with staggering
circumstances: a handicapped child is born, a person dies in the prime of his
youth, a flourishing business suddenly runs into great losses, a young lady
becomes a widow, cruel relatives deprive their blood relations from even the
basic necessities of life. The list of course is unending.
The result of all this more often
than not is quite predictable: depression, continued sorrow and sometimes severe
anger and rage. The unexpected brings out from within us reactions which cross
limits.
The Qur’ān says that there may be
various reasons for such untoward circumstances. While explaining one of them it
says:
And
sometimes you dislike a thing and [in reality] there is great welfare for you in
it and sometimes you like a thing and [in reality] there is great harm for you
in it. Allah knows and you know not. (2:216)
It is thus
expected of a Muslim to submit to the Almighty in all circumstances with the
belief that whatever has happened was best for him. We cannot always grasp the
profundity of the Almighty’s wisdom. Time, however, often tells how the
‘untoward’ happening actually positively influences the course of our life. So
instead of becoming upset and frustrated we must resign to his will and wait to
see how things ultimately take shape.
In short, ‘all is well even
if does not seem to end well’.
Mankind seems to be divided by
religious categorisation. Some religious groups are more exclusive in their
approach than others. However, the approach of condemning people belonging to
other faiths, although it has become a much less pronounced problem in recent
times, has not vanished completely.
There have been many approaches
adopted by religious scholars belonging to different faiths to check the
tendency of growing bigotry amongst religious people. The Vatican adopted the
policy of Religious Inclusivism through its decree of 1967 which expressed
sentiments of cordiality for other important world religions. Words of sympathy
were also reserved in the decree for those who have chosen to follow the
approach of atheism.
There are, however, some
Christians scholars who believe that Religious Inclusivism, even though it is a
welcome improvement on Religious Exclusivism, still falls short of being fully
convincing. What has been presented by William Rowland, John Hick, and Paul
Badham is an approach to justify what they describe as Religious Pluralism.
According to this approach, all important religions are genuine human responses
to the same Transcendental Reality, even though influenced by the respective
cultural environments of the religious leaders. Thus all of them are
simultaneously correct, and all offer important insights into the understanding
of the Ultimate.
Both Religious Inclusivism and
Religious Pluralism promise more religious tolerance amongst those who choose to
adopt these points of view, although the latter seems to be more capable of
engendering true respect in the hearts of believers of one faith for the
believers in the other faiths.
Muslims have normally been
considered Religious Exclusivists, who would not hold people of other faiths
worthy of being offered respect for their religious commitments. There is,
therefore, felt a need to present an Islamic point of view on how Islamic
teachings propose to tackle the issue of religious plurality.
Islam, on the one hand takes a
firm position in confirming the unquestionable authenticity of its teachings, on
the other hand it also calls for genuine respect for all non-Muslims. Even
though there seems to be apparently a contradiction in the approach, a better
understanding of the various verses of the Qur’ān on the subject would suggest
that it is not necessarily so.
The correct Islamic approach
towards the non-Muslims is to assume that all of them have, as yet, not been
properly convinced about the authenticity of the divine origins of the teachings
of Islam. It is for the Muslims to help the non-Muslims to appreciate the
truthfulness of the Islamic teachings. That would require not only intelligent
preaching on their part but, perhaps more importantly, a behaviour of respect
for the fellow human beings, irrespective of their faith. The absence of that
behaviour on the part of some Muslims has been an important reason for their
failure to present Islam as a message which is worthy of being taken seriously
by the non-Muslims. Thus true religious tolerance is at the heart of a proper
Islamic behaviour. Thus it will be shown that all Muslims are required to be
extremely tolerant of other faiths and to continue their struggle to convince
them politely.
This approach is neither
Religious Inclusivism of the sort adopted by the Vatican, nor Religious
Pluralism as proposed by Rowland Williams, John Hick, and Paul Badham. It is, in
fact, a call for religious tolerance because of the possibility of lack of
proper communication of the true message of God. Since no body knows whether the
other individual has been communicated the message of Islam properly, therefore,
no Muslim has the right to condemn any non-Muslim on grounds of religious
differences.
Discussion Forum: Family and Marriage: Core Issues
Topic: Disobedient and Parents
Siddiq Bukhary (Moderator) When do the
children have the right to disobey the parents?
saba2 Well can you
please be more specific about the age of children.
ibrahim Of course adult and mature children. saba2 If they are adult and mature then their is no
question of disobedience is there? They are free to make their own choices
which can also differ from their parents. I feel there is a very thin line
between disobedience and making different choices. I think teenagers who can distinguish between
right from wrong may come under the category of being disobedient adult and
mature children cannot come under the category of being disobedient.
A child can be disobedient when he is being
asked to do what is considered gunnah or wrong in Islam and when he feels
physically threatened sexually.
ibrahim
Well, we are bound to follow parents (and all others too) in the limits of
Islam. So such disobedience has no value. You are right that there may be a very thin
line between the two but one can still differentiate. I give you an example:
Parents want to marry a child at one place but
he/she want to marry at another. This is a choice difference. However when
they ask the child to do any useful thing that he/she must do or ask not to
do a harmful thing that he/she must avoid then this will surely be a
disobedience. for example two mature kids are fighting with eachother (may
be verbally) & when a parent ask them to stop. If they do not, they are
disobeying.
I hope I'm able to clear the point. Moreover
you as a senior MOM can yourself give many examples of both cases. Don't
You? It'll need just a deep thinking.
saba2 So
in the eyes of Allah disobedience is allowed when there is shirk committed
and parents expect the children to join in or be a part of it. Is going to
shrines and peers and asking them of favors from God considered Shirk? The example you gave of choice differences is
the one parents have the most difficulty excepting. You hear all sorts of
stories and maximum blackmail when it comes to marriage of choice. “Moreover
you as a senior MOM” how can u tell if I am a senior mom? Hmm I like it, it
gives me a lot of clout.
Can some one please answer the question
ibrahim
Your described act is a shirk act but one may not be doing it as a shirk.
That's a big difference. In Marriage case parents should have the
courage to accept the choice of their kids in case of no settlement between
them just because kids have been given the last right to choose their life
partner. We as a parent can only try our best to guide them the best and in
the best possible way.
I would like to
now if we can read small namaz, meaning can we shorten it. If we can, wot
can we read. Also when reading kiza namaz can we read kiza namaz with any
namaz.
Also do we have
to wake up for sehri, when we are keeping a fast? I would really appreciate
it if my questions are answered.
Tweety
You can shorten
your namaz by praying fard and leaving out the Sunnah if you have to but if
your outside a radius of 40miles**different opinions about distance and time
but its more about how convenient it is for you really** from your home then
u can do qasar **in a journey**
and you can pray
kaza salah if u have missed it but try not 2 make it a habit
oh and you don’t
have to wake up 4 serhi...sumtyms i can’t be bothered either but the prophet
(saw) encouraged sahur and sed thers a blessing in it- medically and
spiritually advised
hope this helps
Jhangeer Hanif (Moderator)
If any Salah has
been missed for some reason, it must be offered and we should also seek
forgiveness from Allah.
It is better
that we say the missed prayer first and then go on to offer the other Salah.
xxbasxx
yeah thats what
I do, if I have been a daft nut and prayed Asr after the Maghrib Azaan, I
pray Asr before Maghrib. This isn't happening to regularly Alhamdullillah.
Loveall
What are the
explanations of the followings?
1. Salahtal
wusta [Middle Salah (Namaz)]- Al-Quran.
2. La Salahta
illa be hazooril qalab [No Salah (Namaz) without present heart]- Hadith
oosman
So what happens
if a Muslim intentionally does not do salat (namaz)? Does he/she get
punished for it?
Ibrahim
(Moderator)
Here are the
answers of your Questions according to my little knowledge:
1. Surely the
literal meaning of "Salaat ul Wusta" is Middle Prayer (Namaz) & "Asar"
Prayer is The "Salaat ul Wusta" as it Comes in the MIDDLE of the Day & Work.
2. the Hadith
"La Salahta illa be hazooril qalab [No Salah (Namaz) without present heart]"
means that One should try to be attentive TOWARDS Allah in one's prayer as
Much as Possible.
and
Dear Brother
OOSMAN
Please note that the prayer is the most important thing for a Muslim
not only for his success in the Life after death but also in this worldly life
and he becomes a complete citizen of a Muslim state if he's coming to
Mosque Regularly for his Prayers.
So it means that it's hard to think of a Muslim
who is not offering his prayers "intentionally". Surely he'll get Punishment
NOT only on the Last Day BUT even in this world By an Islamic State.
But remember that the off and on intentional
negligence in the prayer is a totally different matter. Normally in these
type of cases a Muslim will Offer his prayer as soon as he'll come out of
this state of negligence and you know such a prayer may not even be considered
as a "Qaza" prayer by our Most Merciful God.
Fighting Hopelessness Posted on: Friday, April 16,
2010 - Hits: 2
Question:
My problem is that I feel
hopeless all the time not just because I think too much but because whatever
happens to me is against my will. It is okay if it happens once or twice but it
seems to happen chronically. My second question is that I am not good in
communication also. I want to become assertive but I think my fate doesn’t help
me with this as well.
Answer:
As long as the wheel of life
is destined to move on, problems and difficulties will keep popping up. The
Almighty has sent us in this world in order to test and try us. The nature of
this trial of life varies from person to person. Some people are placed in
difficult times and others in prosperous ones, according to the just and wise
scheme of the Almighty. The underlying objective, however, remains to test them
which one of them is good in deeds. So, the befitting attitude is to submit to
the scheme of Allah because it will lead us to the Garden of Paradise. The
benefit, we shall reap, in this world because of this submission, is to be
contented and satisfied. Try as hard as we may, we cannot undo whatever Allah
has willed for us. However, if we learn to see our happiness in the failures
that He has willed for us it will not only earn us entitlement to Paradise but
also give us a contented heart.
The second question must also
be understood in the perspective of the explanation delineated above. Allah has
created people of varying skills and capabilities. Some people are awarded the
ability of articulation as good as to become immortal orators and some are
deprived of the very ability of speaking. While the former group of people is
supposed to prostrate themselves in gratitude, the latter group is required to
prostrate themselves in submission to God’s will. I think it is rather difficult
to be a good Muslim when you are engulfed by God-gifted talents and skills. Our
misery and deprivation remind us of Allah and help us to be closest to Him. So
the deficiency that you have related is not to be feared. Moses (sws), the great
Prophet of Allah, had problems with communicating the message of Allah to the
people. What he did is that he prayed very sincerely to the Lord to compensate
for the lack of it:
O Lord, relieve my mind, and
ease my task for me and loose the knot from my tongue that they may understand
my saying. (20:25-8)