I would also like to ask whether there is any concept of ‘Rukhsati’ in Islam? Furthermore, I would like to ask if it would be sinful for a couple, after the ‘Nikah’, to have consensual sex without informing their families?" />
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Societal Convention on post ‘Nikah’ Sexual Relations?
Question asked by Anonymous.
Posted on: Wednesday, January 12, 2005 - Hits: 12175
I find conflicting statements on the website, that is, at one place you write "you would not be sinning in the eyes of the Shariah if you have a physical relationship", whereas, at another place you mention that "it is against the conventions and traditions of an Islamic society for a husband to take her (his wife) though legally as I said, this cannot be objected to". Thus, I would like to ask that, regardless of the social conventions, is a couple allowed to have consensual sexual and physical relations with each other after the ‘Nikah’ but before ‘Rukhsati’? My point is that if the Shariah allows something then why must we negate marital blessings by indulging in social and traditional conventions?
I would also like to ask whether there is any concept of ‘Rukhsati’ in Islam? Furthermore, I would like to ask if it would be sinful for a couple, after the ‘Nikah’, to have consensual sex without informing their families?
I do not think that anywhere in the response the author has mentioned that establishing sexual relations would be considered a punishable crime and a sin. Rather, the author has stressed that it would only be the proper course of action. Is not ‘Nikah’ a social contract? If yes, then what would that imply? Why is that, in contrast to a married couple, two unmarried people are forbidden to have consensual sex? What do you think makes an unmarried couple have secret sexual relations?
I think the answer to these questions would explain the reason we stress that such a relationship should be in conformity with social norms. Of course, Islam does not require a particular way of union but it necessitates that such a union should be established according to the societal norms.
‘Rukhsati’ means any form of an open declaration that two individuals have decided to live together like a husband and wife. Such a declaration safeguards the rights and reputation of a couple.
I hope this helps.
Tariq Mahmood Hashmi
Research Assistant, Studying Islam
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